Comments on: Marriage Counseling 101: The Dialogue

By: Artie

Artie — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 22:43:01 +0000

This is so, very, well written. You have nailed The Freaking Essay about the Freaking Dialogue. I was right there in the room with you.
Now that we live twice as long as we did a century ago, I can’t even imagine how any two people can continue on and on w/out the aid of some skilled, objective third parties once in awhile. Seeking help and learning skills is really just “Rocking the Commitment.”
Thanks for this!

By: Chibi Jeebs

Chibi Jeebs — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 23:19:52 +0000

Thank you for sharing this: as Robin said, it’s definitely a learning experience as a reader (in a relationship with a man who may or may not have sworn to “never” go to counseling).

By: schmutzie

schmutzie — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 16:26:17 +0000

This weblog is being featured on Five Star Friday – http://www.fivestarfriday.com/2009/10/five-star-fridays-edition-77.html

By: Tonz

Tonz — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 22:47:24 +0000

This was incredible. My partner and I have been having so many problems of late and he was not able to talk about it. One day after I’d had a couple of beverages, I proked and prodded until he spilled his guts with everything that was going on with him. It was the most difficult thing I’ve ever listened to. But it was incredible. Listening (well reading but I always feel like I’m listening when I read your posts) reminded me of that. Well done on doing this, it sounds incredibly hard. And I have to say that I was speechless and until I read your comment “just IMAGINE how annoying we’ll be at parties if we ever do!”…that’s when I laughed.

Well done, good luck and thank you so much for sharing this.

By: RW

RW — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 22:14:19 +0000

I’ve been away for a while. Hey what’s this thread about?

By: Natalie

Natalie — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 16:31:46 +0000

Thank you for this BRILLIANT rendition of a typical marriage counseling session. I’ve been in relationship counseling with 2 different people, and this never happened. THE DIALOGUE makes so much sense…it’s a process…my husband and I can learn and do process. Sometimes all we will have is that process.

What we are doing right now is silence and getting away from each other for a while. Then we come back together and it’s like nothing happened. This is a bad recipe.

I can’t thank you enough for sharing.

Good luck with the process Brit!

By: J from Ireland

J from Ireland — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 14:28:13 +0000

Fair play to you for your honesty here. Thank you. I am going to try these steps when me and the hubs are having a screaming match. Best wishes.

By: Susan Payton

Susan Payton — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 12:12:01 +0000

It’s hard to be vulnerable for each other when you’ve spent so long trying to be strong.

You’re doing it though,and so is he.

By: Lauren

Lauren — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 01:50:58 +0000

Counseling of any kind is challenging. When I was in therapy my counselor tried to dig deeper than I wanted to go at the time. Maybe it was necessary but who knows. I’m glad that ya’ll are giving it a shot. Marriage is hard work.

By: Kris

Kris — Thu, 29 Oct 2009 01:49:09 +0000

We call those “unapologies.” And yes, they make you feel like worse crap – like your feelings don’t matter at all. I’d rather feel that I’m wrong, than feel stupid and insignificant.

And The Dialogue is akin to smoking The Marijuana and doing The Drugs.