An Itty Bitty Story That Is Not At All Cryptic But Is About Bodily Functions.

by Miss Britt on September 3, 2009

I was laying in bed desperately trying to ignore the fact that I wasn’t sleeping, even though my alarm clock wouldn’t go off for another 15 minutes.

My annoyance at being awake before 6:00 am was softened by the squishy comfort of finding myself in the middle of  a kid burrito.

Emma was curled snugly into the crook of my left arm, her fair haired head anchored under my chin.  Devin’s much longer arms and legs had enveloped the right side of me.  His forehead pressed against my temple as if to suggest that we were conspiratory partners, equals above his younger and less wise sister.

I let out a groggy sigh in the darkness.

“I love you guys,” I whispered.  “You know, you’re my favorites.”

Emma said nothing.  Devin, always eager to affirm and encourage me, squeezed his arms tighter around his half of me.  “We love you too, Mom,” he said.

I saw his hand reach past my stomach and rest on his sister’s arm.

“I love you, Emma.”

“Stop touching me.”

Emma…” she burrowed herself deeper into my arm pit in response.  I took the offending hand in my own, lacing my fingers between his.  “You can hug on me, Kiddo.”

I settled back into the darkness and contemplated the relationship between my two children.  I remembered a text message my own younger brother had sent me just a few days ago and how grateful I’d been for his unconditional love and support.  My father-in-law’s voice echoed in the back of my cotton stuffed brain, touting the sibling relationship as one of the few constants in life.  They’ll figure it out, I thought.

I closed my eyes.  Five more minutes left.  Surely I could capture a little more rest in five more minutes.

The pressure in my abdomen swelled.  I closed my eyes tighter and pulled my children more firmly into my embrace.  My bladder groaned.

Of course.

“Hey,” my voice just barely broke the silence, “you know when you really don’t want to get up, but you really have to pee, and you lay there trying to ignore the fact that you really, really have to pee and your belly starts to hurt, but you just really, really don’t want to get up and you try to just hold on and not get up to go to the bathroom for as long as you can?”

Devin’s body stiffened against mine.

“Uh, no,” he replied.

“Really?”

“Really.”

“Huh.”

Emma’s tiny head stirred beneath my chin.

“Yes,” she whispered.

“What’s that, Baby?” I asked, straining to hear her mousy voice.

She nodded again.  “Yes,” she said.  “I do that too, Mommy.”

“It must be a girl thing,” I said.

Right,” I felt Devin roll his eyes as he peeled his body off of mine.  “I’m going to go now.”   He stopped at the door and turned to look at us one more time, shaking his head – whether in disgust or confusion, I don’t know – and then went back into the light of the living room.

So, dear Internet, my question to you is…

Is this a girl thing??

Are Emma and I unique in our attempts to thwart our bladders in order to get just a tiny bit more sleep??

And also – are you asking yourself WHY you just wasted five minutes of your life reading this meandering post with absolutely NO point to it?

Yeah.  Um.  Sorry about that.

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51 Comments so far

  1. avitable September 3, 2009 9:41 am

    I totally get that feeling, too. That does not help in any way to answer the question about whether or not it’s a girl thing, though.

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    Hilly Reply:

    @avitable, Haha, I was gonna say…

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @avitable, the feeling of having to pee?

    Of course you do.

    But do you try to ignore it so you don’t have to get up??

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  2. Rachel September 3, 2009 9:45 am

    I think it’s a girl thing. Me, my mom, my sister, my sil and my niece do that. the boys – not so much. they get up and go back to sleep like peeing is soooooo exhausting they have to rest after

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Rachel, well it MUST be a lot of work for them to have to STAND there and all. LOL

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    Wendy Reply:

    @Miss Britt, I think it is more that they can stand there and pee without waking up. We, on the other hand, have to get up, drop our drawers, sit, pee, wipe, stand up, pull our drawers up and THEN go back to bed. I’m awake by that time…..

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  3. Dawn September 3, 2009 10:00 am

    I don’t think it’s a girl thing. Unless my husband is a girl?!?!

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Dawn, I’m going to go out on a limb and suggest… no.

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  4. Kristin September 3, 2009 10:06 am

    I am not sure I’ve ever talked to a guy about this, but I do this ALL the time.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Kristin, this doesn’t surprise me.

    Remember laying in our beds in the dorm and trying to figure out how we could get food up into our lofts because neither one of us could stand the idea of getting out of our beds? LOL

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  5. Sheila (Charm School Reject) September 3, 2009 10:06 am

    I think it’s a girl thing. I also think that guys in general just have stronger bladders than women….even pre-baby women. Because Mike can wake up after sleeping for eight hours and putz around for an hour or so before the thought that he might have to pee even occurs to him. Whereas my bladder wakes me up more often than my alarm clock does. But then I try to ignore it and this leads to me peeing on myself while frantically trying to make sure the lid is up on the toilet seat before I sit down.

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    Finn Reply:

    @Sheila (Charm School Reject), Mister does that too. What IS that?

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Sheila (Charm School Reject), my son does that, too! The VERY first thing I do upon waking is pee!

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  6. Robin September 3, 2009 10:10 am

    I think so because my husband just goes to pee when he has to go but i always hold it. it must be a chick thing.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Robin, I’m usually too caught up in whatever I’m doing – even if it’s just sleeping – to interrupt it for a bathroom break.

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  7. Finn September 3, 2009 10:10 am

    I do it too. And if I hold it long enough when I finally do go I’m doing for a looooong time.

    Must be a chick thing.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Finn, me too! The longer the hold, the longer the release.

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  8. Hilly September 3, 2009 10:28 am

    I’m the anti-girl in this case, I think. I’m not very good at holding my pee, as it has been witnessed at your house several times.

    (Note to other commenters: I pee a ton. I did not pee on their floor or anything)

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    Sheila (Charm School Reject) Reply:

    @Hilly, I’m not good at holding my pee either. I just do my damnedest to do so because otherwise, I’d be taking bathroom breaks every thirty minutes or so :)

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Hilly, I hear that’s actually better for you.

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  9. Jenn September 3, 2009 10:30 am

    No, totally, I get irritated when I’m trying to sleep in and I have to pee – because once I’m up, I’m up.

    This actually causes me to use the restroom like 5 times RIGHT before I go to bed, just to avoid this situation. Weird, right…

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Jenn, you can pee 5 times in a ROW??

    Wow.

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    Jenn Reply:

    @Miss Britt, It’s more like, pee once…get settled in bed to read/watch TV, think, “I should pee again.” Get up, tinkle tinkle. Get back in bed. “Do I have to pee again?” Therapist’s dream, that is.

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    Bre Reply:

    @Jenn,
    I do that too! haha… Oh, the psychology of urination.

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  10. SciFi Dad September 3, 2009 11:31 am

    I actually liked this “meandering post”.

    Oh, and I will do that too; not just in bed, but at work sometimes.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @SciFi Dad, me too! At work, while watching TV, while on the computer.

    Man, I think I should just invest in a catheter.

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    SciFi Dad Reply:

    @Miss Britt, uhm, you go ahead and do that. I’ll stick with using a toilet.

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  11. floating princess September 3, 2009 11:46 am

    I do the same thing, and I can hold it for an insanely long time, but once the seal is broken my bladder gets revenge by making me go every 5 minutes after that.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @floating princess, that only happens when I’ve been drinking.

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  12. lceel September 3, 2009 11:56 am

    And the older I get the more difficult (I was going to say ‘harder’ – but felt that in this context it might not be appropo) it is to ignore that ‘urge’ – the urgent PLEASE???? from the bladder in the morning.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @lceel, I hear that’s common with age. ;-)

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  13. hello haha narf September 3, 2009 11:59 am

    can’t speak for men, but this girl will do every and any damn thing in my power to stay in bed for just a few more moments. so hell yes, i’ll hold it for as long as i can.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @hello haha narf, i looooooove being in bed.

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  14. Poppy September 3, 2009 12:12 pm

    1. This post felt incredibly honest and authentic.
    2. I was living this experience at 3:48 this morning.
    3. I have no idea if it’s a gender thing, but it does seem like we care more about Upsetting the Moment and Upsetting the Balance than men.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Poppy, or at least, some men.

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  15. Peggy Payne September 3, 2009 12:13 pm

    I read it for the delightful portrait of the three of you, each personality so distinct.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Peggy Payne, oh, well, good. I’m glad to know it wasn’t a TOTAL waste of words!

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  16. Poppy September 3, 2009 12:16 pm

    4. And I wrote oppycede.com which explains yesterday’s commenting confusion on my part. YOU ARE FRIENDS WITH A GENIUS. :)

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Poppy, I know this. :-D

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  17. Mrs Soup September 3, 2009 12:18 pm

    I do that exact same thing. It’s frustrating to have to pee….but you are so comfortable. I can usually will my body to stop it.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Mrs Soup, the spirit is willing, the flesh is coping with two pregnancies and subsequent child births.

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  18. Faiqa September 3, 2009 12:30 pm

    I do that all the time. All the time. To the point where … well, let’s not get too personal.

    And I love my brother, he is my best friend. (I thought a meandering post deserved a meandering comment).

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Faiqa, God forbid we get too personal.

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  19. Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] September 3, 2009 12:36 pm

    Yup. I do the pee thing, especially when I don’t wanna get off the interwebs. A sickness, really.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing], OR, an amazing ability to concentrate!

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  20. Robin September 3, 2009 12:44 pm

    I am not good at holding my pee, so while I try, it doesn’t work for me.

    My brothers and I used to fight for the right to lay out heads in the space right above my mom’s breasts. Of course, I always won, which caused me to get an arse beating later on by one of them….suckers. :)

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Robin, my kids do that, too.

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  21. Becca September 3, 2009 12:50 pm

    It is a girl thing, I promise!! I try to hold it as long as flippin’ possible all the time, but it isn’t good for us. So, I am always telling my kiddos to go right when they have to.

    I love that time with critters in the bed hanging out and snuggling.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Becca, I always try to remind myself about how BAD that is for me to do – but, well, attention span and what not…

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  22. Stacy O September 3, 2009 12:52 pm

    yup it is…My daughter is 4 and does the peepee dance before she lets a little trickle out, all before she bolts into the bathroom with an “ahhhhh”. My son,6, goes to the bathroom 15 times a day if he had to. No pee pee dance there. Its definately a girl thing.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Stacy O, now I’m going to be watching my kids for the pee pee dance. I’m not sure I’ve actually ever seen either of them do it.

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  23. Alyson September 3, 2009 1:48 pm

    That’s so weird, I thought I was the only person who did this. I have to go pee every morning around 3 am. And every morning I hold it until I actually wake up at about 7am. And it hurts soooo bad, but I REFUSE to wake up just to go pee.

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  24. Robina September 3, 2009 2:22 pm

    I do that ALL THE TIME! At work, shopping, eating, reading, etc. I just hate taking the time to go so I wait until I feel like my bladder will explode so as to delay the next time I have to go! :-)

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  25. mew September 3, 2009 2:47 pm

    i do that too. i put off peeing for sooo long that by the time i do go, it feels like an emergency.

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  26. Kay September 3, 2009 2:57 pm

    I do it all the time… hell, I even DREAM that I have to pee really bad and can’t find a bathroom, then wake up realizing that OMG I have to pee!!!

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  27. Mama Bub September 3, 2009 3:50 pm

    I would actually get ANGRY when I was pregnant and waking up at all hours of the night to pee. I try desperately to ignore my husband’s alarm in the morning, because if I wake up, then I’ll have to pee and I’ll never be able to get back to sleep for the golden minutes before the boy wakes up.

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  28. Ashleigh September 3, 2009 4:23 pm

    There are times when I wake up in the middle of the night for no reason other than to get up and pee, but I am so warm and sleepy in my bed that I just don’t want to move.
    I do it while watching tv too, I’ll have to wait for a commercial to come on so I can sprint into the bathroom.

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  29. Leaane Woods September 3, 2009 4:24 pm

    It must be a girl thing. My husband will get up at all hours, whereas I’ll wake up about 3am needing to go but manage to hold it until the alarms goes off about 4 hours later.

    And I’ll hear my daughter running like the clappers to get to the bathroom in the morning too, so she must do the same thing.

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  30. perpstu September 3, 2009 4:25 pm

    It must be a girl thing because me hubby and son get up at the drop of a hat in the middle of the night to pee. I’ll cross my legs and clench for all it’s worth to avoid getting up before the alarm goes off!

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  31. racheal September 3, 2009 4:51 pm

    lol…i have a bladder the size of a pea. i don’t know if it’s a girl thing but i do this every. morning.
    gah!
    damn bodily functions. :)

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  32. Collette September 3, 2009 5:20 pm

    I think it’s a girl thing, too! I’ll wait as long as I possibly can just so I don’t have to get up, but my hubby, when he’s gotta go, he’s gotta go! LOL

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  33. Sybil Law September 3, 2009 5:42 pm

    Well, I definitely do it, too. Probably will forever, just because it feels so cozy in bed, you know?!

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  34. Nanna September 3, 2009 6:08 pm

    So I conducted a poll at our house (you know, trying to be supportive here) and yes, it appears it is a girl thing. I will wait until I almost can’t walk, and hobble all hunched over to the bathroom. Now the boys and men at my house.

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  35. Tonz September 3, 2009 6:33 pm

    I do this all the time both in bed and at work. Then I realise I’m actually not getting anything done because I’m concentrating so hard on not peeing.

    I loved this post…the mental image of the kid burrito was so beautiful.

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  36. Sarah September 3, 2009 9:50 pm

    I have 3 stepdaughters who live with my boyfriend and me full time. Its a girl thing. They always are standing outside the bathroom door, dancing. Mostly because we have 1 bathroom but also because they wait till the last minute.

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  37. Ashlea September 3, 2009 10:23 pm

    I do that too! Especially when I am in bed and want to sleep! I HATE getting up early!

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  38. Mik September 3, 2009 11:32 pm

    I am frequently trying to hold the fit-to-burst bladder at bay and not get up in the middle of the night.

    The wife is up every few minutes it seems, something about “bloody water pills”.

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  39. Kimberly September 4, 2009 6:48 am

    Yep…just about every morning.

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  40. Vic September 4, 2009 7:01 am

    I would, but there’s no chance of me thwarting my bladder these days. Especially not with a baby who seems to like aiming well placed kicks directly at it…

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  41. FC September 4, 2009 8:11 am

    I don’t know if it’s just a “girl thing” but I know I’m a girl and I’ve done it before.
    ~ FC

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  42. FyreGoddess September 4, 2009 9:02 am

    Guys shouldn’t do this, under any circumstances. For women, it’s a good strengthening exercise to hold your pee – on par with kegels. However, for guys it can cause damage to the prostate later in life.

    Young boys should *never* be encouraged to hold it, unless there is no other option, but with boys you can generally find a convenient bush for him to use in a worst-case scenario.

    I asked my son and he says that, yes, he does this. I can relate, but I had to respond with “Oh, you really shouldn’t. That can cause prostate problems as you get older.”

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  43. Laura September 4, 2009 1:59 pm

    LOL I do that too. But I’m a girl sooo….does that count?

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  44. Lynda September 4, 2009 5:39 pm

    I only really do that in the winter, when it’s too cold to get out of bed. :D

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  45. Michelle September 5, 2009 12:42 am

    I have definitely experienced this. But I can’t say if it’s a ladies-only thing! I’ll have to check with my boyfriend. Either way, it’s always awful. Why must bladders do that. Thanks for the post.

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  46. Lizzle September 5, 2009 1:26 pm

    That happens to me every flippin’ morning. And inevitably the bladder wins and I have to wake up.

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  47. Steve September 8, 2009 11:41 am

    I’m a guy, and I do it sometimes – not every day mind you, and yes, I will go back to sleep, but not because it is so exhausting. I just don’t fully wake-up – and yes, I usually sit if I am not awake…

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  48. Jennifer September 8, 2009 10:27 pm

    I do it all the time. I always figured it was habit after trying to avoid getting up eleventy-six times a night during pregnancy.

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  49. daniel September 9, 2009 9:29 am

    Not just you. I’d love to snuggle with my kids more if physically possible, but my bladder won’t allow it. It sucks.

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  50. Sarah, Goon Squad Sarah September 14, 2009 9:31 pm

    I don’t know. I do it, but I’m a girl.

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  51. Al_Pal October 1, 2009 7:52 am

    I totally get the wanting to stay warm and in bed longer. In the last couple years, though, I’ve noticed that if I need to pee while I’m sleeping, often I’ll dream that I’m needing to pee, but have to find a suitable toilet stall, and they keep being unusable, so now I just get up and pee so that I can go bad to bed for reals. Heh.
    Cuz dreaming about needing to pee, and wandering in WEIRD-ASS bathrooms? Kinda sucks. ;p

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