Comments on: Ugly.

By: Two Makes Four

Two Makes Four — Wed, 26 Aug 2009 20:43:44 +0000

Just stumbling into your blog from Cheeky Sweetie. Yes and yes and yes to this post, except the part where someone tells me I’m pretty. But yeah, I struggle with this all the time. I hate the way I look and hate when I lose myself in happiness, only to be smacked by the reality of a horrible photo or glimpse in the mirror. Sad.

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Best in Show: Week of August 10th – bethsix — Mon, 24 Aug 2009 16:37:10 +0000

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By: Whit

Whit — Wed, 19 Aug 2009 20:01:23 +0000

This is my life, too. Except nobody ever tells me I’m pretty. Apparently I don’t twirl enough.

The funny thing is that it isn’t about what other people think, it’s all about myself, and while that may sound vain it couldn’t be further from it.

And you? You’re a pocketful of dynamite.

By: Debbie

Debbie — Wed, 19 Aug 2009 19:59:20 +0000

I’m going through this exact thing right now. I hate how I feel about myself and am unhappy with what I see in the mirror. I’m on the path to finding myself and being ok with me even if that means changing things I don’t like. I’m just glad that you were able to put in words how I feel about me. My god, someone gets it!

By: Sarah, Goon Squad Sarah

Sarah, Goon Squad Sarah — Wed, 19 Aug 2009 14:37:10 +0000

I hate the way I look too, but I think YOU are pretty. (Don’t cower, I can’t even see you from here.)

By: Don Mills Diva

Don Mills Diva — Wed, 19 Aug 2009 13:29:17 +0000

Here via Rock n Droll and I find myself really touched by this post.

I don’t really know you and I never actually met you at BlogHer but from what I saw you WERE pretty and sparkly and you radiated confidence – I’m sad to hear you don’t feel that way on the inside.

Perhaps…admitting your insecurity out loud IS the first step to resolving it. I hope so…you deserve to love yourself.

By: Missives From Suburbia

Missives From Suburbia — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 23:51:21 +0000

Maybe you need to take MORE photos of yourself. I read an article years ago about a psychiatrist who was treating anorexics with photography. Shooting them in beautiful settings — NUDE. Repeatedly. Gorgeous, classic nude art. Over time, she found that her patients could grow to accept a little lump here and a little bump there. I mean, obviously, they were working with a psychiatrist, too, so it’s not like the photography was the only tool. But maybe seeing yourself over and over and starting to focus on your good points, while telling yourself your faults are okay (we all have them) would be healthy. When you’re my age, you’ll probably look back on those photos and kick yourself for not appreciating them now.

Hugs. You’re beautiful. Inside and out.

By: melissa

melissa — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 20:21:23 +0000

honey, i met you briefly. and i thought you were beautiful. and it wasn’t just from your pretty face. it was from a light that you have that shine from within you. you, my new little friend, are a joy and there is just something about you.
as for feeling repulsed by your naked body…i’m going to write a post about that. because me. too.
also…i so get the allowing yourself to feel the compliment. it’s one thing to be told. it’s another thing to truly believe.
xo

By: VDog

VDog — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 18:30:20 +0000

You need to shut up that inner editor because she is WRONG.

Just my two cents.

By: lceel

lceel — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 12:44:41 +0000

Perhaps, if you could see yourself as others do, you might be a little less focused on your ‘flaws’ and a bit more focused on your ‘attributes’. I saw you but from a distance and I think you are lovely. I heard you from a distance, and I think you are witty, wise and confident.

That’s what I see in you. That’s what you should be seeing in yourself.

We ALL have flaws. We ALL have things about ourselves we would change, make different, make better. Those flaws are almost always not what other people see or notice.

When I was a kid, I had a scar on my head that fell right where the part in my hair was (back when I used to HAVE hair). I was horribly self-conscious about that scar. To me, it felt like a beacon and I was sure people noticed it and were, like me, revulsed by it. Eventually I realized – nobody ever noticed. It was just ‘there’. It was just ‘me’.

Focus on all of the many, many good things about you – because few of us, out here, are aware of the ‘flaws’ YOU see in yourself. We love you just as you are. You need to do the same.