20 Things I Want You To Hear

by Miss Britt on July 15, 2009

Blog memes are like bell bottoms.

It doesn’t matter how good or bad of an idea they were in the first place, they always come back around eventually.

The most recent one to resurface is the “Things I Would Love To Say” post.  The way it works is that the blogger makes a list of random things they wish they could say to someone, but they don’t name names.  The readers then either join in with their own lists of anonymous statements, or spend the rest of their day trying to figure out who the blogger was hypothetically speaking to.  And wondering if it was them.

It’s a fantastic display of pent up aggression and insecurity driven paranoia.  Fun.

I’ve decided to play along, with the disclaimer that if you’re reading this, I might very well be talking about you.

20 Things I Want You To Hear Someone Say To You

1.  You don’t have to be so afraid to let the world see the real you.

2.  I hate watching you in pain, but I am so amazed at your willingness to endure it.

3.  I’ve never met you, but I feel like I know you through the comments you’ve left here.  You’ve made a difference to me on more than one occasion.

4.  I care what you think of me, because you’re someone worth impressing.

5.  Watching you with your family inspires me to be a better wife and mother.

6.  Your happiness is contagious and, I believe, truly a gift.  From God to the rest of the world.

7.  Your intellect is impressive.  Your compassion, however, is absolutely stunning.

8.  You have a good heart.  Have faith that it will be enough of a reason for people to like you.

9. There will always be someone in this world who loves you.  Always.  Even if it’s just me.

10.  I wish I had been a better friend to you when you needed me to be.  You deserved that.

11.  Get out of your own way.  The only thing stopping you from living the life you imagine is you.

12.  Go ahead, let your hair down.  I can see a part of you that’s dying to break free.

13.  Having a friend who is willing to call you on your bullshit means that you are worth the time and energy.

14.  I miss you and think of you often.  There will always be a place for you in my heart, my home, and my life.

15.  I know that you’re afraid to fail.  Please don’t be afraid to try anyway.

16.  We don’t talk often, but knowing you has reminded me that I want to be a better person.

17.  I know someone who has a secret crush on you.  It would shock the hell out of you if you knew about it.  And it’d make you stand up just a little taller.

18.  My friends and I talk about you when you’re not around.  We all wish you were here and are dying to finally meet you.

19.  Something about you intimidates the hell out of me, and I’d really like to be better friends with you.

20.  I want you to be more than content.  I want you to be happy.

What do you need someone to hear?

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45 Comments so far

  1. avitable July 14, 2009 3:18 pm

    I’m so glad that I inspire you to be a better wife and mother.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @avitable, if by better you mean “hey, how would your parents have handled this? Oh, thanks.” *does the opposite*

    Then – yes. Exactly.

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  2. Halala Mama July 15, 2009 12:14 am

    Those are very nice thoughts – I’m sure some of the people in your life would love to really hear them. :)

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Halala Mama, I’m hoping over the course of the next few days at least to make sure that they do.

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  3. Kim July 15, 2009 12:16 am

    OK, you totally made me cry….in a good way !

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Kim, YAY for good tears! I think.

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    Kim Reply:

    @Miss Britt, yes, yay for good tears !!

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  4. Wojak July 15, 2009 12:18 am

    Thanks.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Wojak, you’re welcome.

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  5. Sheila July 15, 2009 12:42 am

    I’ve narrowed myself down to 17, 18 or 19. LOL. Totally kidding. But, I like this ‘meme’!

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Sheila, isn’t it funny that 17, 18 and 19 absolutely COULD be about you? ;-)

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  6. Hilly July 15, 2009 12:44 am

    Why the heck do I not know about number 17? I mean seriously, I know that one isn’t about me but why do I not know the super deets, woman?!?!?

    I think I am number 2. LOL, see? People can be paranoid and egotistical even when all of the things listed are super positive. :)

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    Hilly Reply:

    Pee Ess, I think I DO know who number 18 is!

    Wow, this is fun. Obviously, I need a life, haha.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Hilly, You do know 17, actually. You’re just not remembering. Clearly.

    Number 2 is absolutely you. And I’ve said that to you lots of times.

    And I totally bet you know 18, too.

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  7. CP July 15, 2009 1:11 am

    Don’t know if any of these are about me…but I pulled a few of them that I wish were about me.

    In light of recent events…I’m going to grab #15 for myself. Just go along with it.

    *hugs*

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @CP, you can have it, sweetheart.

    And maybe 20, too.

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  8. Sheila (Charm School Reject) July 15, 2009 1:17 am

    Awwww Britt – it’s okay. You intimidate the hell out of me too. LOL

    Seriously though – I’m reeling. What a freakin’ novel ass concept. Doing one of these and making them all positive instead of cryptic-y bullshit. I should note to self this for future reference.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Sheila (Charm School Reject), I do?!?!? I am not intimidating!! I am a mess!!

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    Sheila (Charm School Reject) Reply:

    @Miss Britt, yeah well, you do it with all kinds of poise and grace so I guess you’re like the Miss Congeniality of Hot Messes. Which, of course, being a Hot Mess myself, makes you intimidating. I mean this as a compliment of course. Have I mentioned how bad I am with words?

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  9. jester July 15, 2009 1:34 am

    You know what I fucking hate about this meme? No one ever writes one about me.

    I guess I need to be a bigger asshole.

    As if that were possible.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @jester, here’s one just for you…

    Quit being an asshole. There’s something soft and squishy in you, and I’ve seen it. I don’t know why you cover it up with all that other crap so often.

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    jester Reply:

    @Miss Britt, You promised that you didn’t see my squishy bits that night.

    There had better not be pictures.

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  10. Sarah July 15, 2009 3:28 am

    This made me smile. So thanks for that, it’s been a hard thing to do this week.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Sarah, you’re welcome. Smiles all around.

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  11. CoffeeJitters July 15, 2009 4:15 am

    i love these statements. and i love the positive spin – it would be very easy to go negative on a meme like this

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @CoffeeJitters, you know, it was actually much easier to come up with 20 “nice” things. I can usually come up with a handful of less nice things before I have to realllly start reaching. LOL

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  12. Lynda July 15, 2009 4:26 am

    I doubt you would say any of those things to me directly, but some of those I could see applying to me.

    If I were to say something it probably would be:

    When I need you the most is when I have the hardest time telling you I need you, and it is usually at that time I feel most abandoned.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Lynda, I do that exact. same. thing. And I hate that I let that make me feel abandoned, when really all it would have taken was for me to ask.

    And, yes, I think more than one of these could apply to you, as well.

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  13. SingleParentDad July 15, 2009 5:33 am

    Only one, one – mild – expletive?

    I suppose you save those to use to peoples’ faces instead. Much more fun.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @SingleParentDad, bullshit is considered mild now?

    Damn.

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  14. MariaV July 15, 2009 5:53 am

    I’m cry too because I hope at least some of these are to me and if they aren’t I wish they were.

    I’ll play along:
    I miss you every single day.
    You are one of the bravest people I know.
    I wish I could find a way to tell you how much you inspire me.
    I’m lonely and relish hearing about your friendships.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @MariaV, ah Maria, those make my heart sad for you. I mean, not all of them, obviously. But the last two. :-(

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  15. Kristin July 15, 2009 7:55 am

    I like this, perhaps I need to do the same on my blog…..just not as pissy as I did yesterday. Although those were all for one person.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Kristin, by the way – go back and read #10.

    That’s all you, baby.

    XO

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    Kristin Reply:

    @Miss Britt, Thanks babe, there were actually a few that I thought could have been directed at me.

    BTW, we may be coming in Nov instead of Sept. Whenever it is with all that’s gone on here lately, I need a dose of my BFF, it can’t be soon enough!

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  16. Laurin July 15, 2009 8:34 am

    I think I’ve said this before, but you should be a motivational speaker or something.

    You make me want to be a better commenter.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Laurin, can’t you just see me at a high school and accidentally slipping in the word “fuck” in front of the student body?

    The first public speaking I ever did started with:

    “I can’t decide whether to puke or pee my pants.”

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  17. Robin July 15, 2009 8:39 am

    I keep thinking of doing this again but I am hesistant, all the things I say lately seem to turn into big ol drama.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Robin, I actually understand that. I’ve lived that, and it’s hard. It’s hard when everything you say seems to turn into a shit fest. It’s stifling.

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  18. Karen Sugarpants July 15, 2009 9:02 am

    There are a couple on here I needed to hear for myself. Thanks Britt.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Karen Sugarpants, I wrote 18 specifically with you in mind.

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  19. Faiqa July 15, 2009 9:13 am

    Annd I think I’ll do this. The one that says, “Thanks for helping me slack out of coming up with an original post” is the one meant for you. :)

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Faiqa, two of these were written for you.

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  20. Hockeyman July 15, 2009 9:23 am

    Wow, I’m so honored you would disguise a post of things you wanted to say to me because it’s obvious I am #’s 1, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 11, 12, 14, 15, 16, 17, 19.

    Oh wait, was that vain? Hmmm. Ok, maybe they weren’t ALL for me. I understand.

    ;)

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Hockeyman, it’s not vain! LOL

    But in all honesty, you goofy fuck, I am really, genuinely glad to have met you. You surprised the hell out of me. I adore how funny you are, how much you love those girls of yours – all three of them, and how easily you put up with my shit.

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  21. hello haha narf July 15, 2009 9:26 am

    what kind and encouraging thoughts. these sound like things you should say to the folks!
    love to yew…

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @hello haha narf, you’re right. I should.

    Number 6, by the way, is you.

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    hello haha narf Reply:

    @Miss Britt,
    daaaaaaaaaaaaaaw! thank you. i’ll walk ten feet tall and bullet proof for the rest of the day.
    especially when i giggle like a fool after telling my boss that i am a gift from God! (paraphrasing is fun.)
    see, telling folks nice things makes them feel good. it is totally appreciated.

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  22. Finn July 15, 2009 9:51 am

    I knew #6 was about our Narfy!

    And I will spend the rest of the day wondering who #17 is about…

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Finn, any guesses which one is about you? ;-)

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    Finn Reply:

    @Miss Britt, A couple could probably apply, but I’d say… 11?

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Finn, yep. :-)

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  23. Sybil Law July 15, 2009 11:34 am

    I tried to throw in a couple of nice ones on my list, too. Problem is, I really try to just say things, good or bad, to people directly. I don’t do subtle very well. :)
    Also, Sheila stole my original comment! :D

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Sybil Law, I don’t do subtle well either. Most of these things have been said out loud at one point or another.

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  24. Mrs Soup July 15, 2009 11:43 am

    How beautiful! And what a great idea. I like the positive look to it…much happier.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Mrs Soup, yeahhh… we’re all happy, happy, joy, joy around here.

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  25. Kiefer and Emo July 15, 2009 12:11 pm

    Here’s one we always say: “You have it. You could do it, but there are things you’re doing now that sidetrack the energy you need to do the bigger thing. Stop wasting your talent on instant gratification and get busy.”

    There are at least three people in the blogosphere we say that to all the time, but they can’t hear us because we’re on the other side of the screen.

    Yeah, miles away. But I agree with Kiefer.

    OK so did, like, the Earth move here?

    What?

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Kiefer and Emo, FUCK I KNOW.

    Seriously.

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  26. crys July 15, 2009 12:29 pm

    thank you for doing this. i think the other meme was destructive and hurtful and really, just very passive aggressive. so in this way it was mean-spirited.

    so…good on you.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @crys, I understand needing to get stuff of your chest. It just heads into a tail spin, for me, very quickly.

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  27. crys July 15, 2009 12:30 pm

    (when i say “other meme” i do not mean yours specifically. i mean all of the ones we’ve all done. they kind of sucked.)

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  28. perpstu July 15, 2009 12:37 pm

    I might have to steal this one. I like your list and have a slew of my own things to say!

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @perpstu, cool! Look forward to reading it!

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  29. Dawn July 15, 2009 12:59 pm

    OK, I’m a bit confused because I’m on VERY little sleep. So these are things that you would say to commenters? I think you left out the one you’d say to me: “Oh my God, I love you because you’re even shorter than I am!”

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Dawn, I don’t think you’re shorter than me. I’m not sure that is even possible.

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  30. Libby July 15, 2009 1:04 pm

    I just wanted to say thanks. I needed to hear this today. It has changed my outlook on how I will handle the inevitable events that will happen this evening.

    Thank you

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Libby, seriously??

    Um – you’re welcome, then. :-)

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    Libby Reply:

    @Miss Britt, Yes, I was serious! After breaking up with the boyfriend of 5 years, last night was the exchange of our belonings and “The Talk”. He tends to put me down and disparage me, (one of the many reasons it’s over) and I knew the talk would be no different. Reading this yesterday reminded me of the great people I do have in my life. It allowed me to keep my head up during his “why you’re not good enough” speech. I just had it in my head that all the people that do love me were saying these things to me.
    Thanks again, and I am sorry if I creeped you out!

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    Libby Reply:

    @Miss Britt,
    Also, obviously I couldn’t make them all coincide with my situation, but for what it’s worth, it helped.

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  31. Princess of the Universe July 15, 2009 1:34 pm

    I think I’m stealing this.
    Love it. :)
    xo

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Princess of the Universe, YAY!!

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  32. Stephanie July 15, 2009 1:39 pm

    Britt, this was a neat idea, and very sweet. It would be so easy to make it a negative thing, but you spun it positively. Good job, kiddo.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Stephanie, yeah, I’m rainbows and sunshine lately. Who knows what is up with me!

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  33. Janelle July 15, 2009 3:15 pm

    Yep. I’m stealing this one. This was good Britt, very good.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Janelle, oh! hey! By the way! One of these is SO, SO, SO applicable to you.

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  34. ZenMom July 15, 2009 4:05 pm

    Best version of this meme I’ve seen. :)

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @ZenMom, a few people have picked it up and ran with it – and I think absolutely improved on it.

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  35. Fear and Parenting in Las Vegas July 15, 2009 4:30 pm

    Nicely done. I totally stole it (and gave you credit, BTW), although I wasn’t quite as nice.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Fear and Parenting in Las Vegas, yeah- but you were MOSTLY nice.

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  36. martymankins July 15, 2009 4:50 pm

    I did #12 this last weekend when I went camping. Let my hair down and tied quite a few on. Woo Hoo!

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @martymankins, but is there video?

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  37. Ren July 15, 2009 5:08 pm

    I like this much more than the traditional “Things I Would Love To Say” that usually seems focused on the negative things.

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    Britt's Mom Reply:

    @Ren, me too!

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Ren, @Britt’s Mom – me too!

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  38. Poppy July 15, 2009 6:28 pm

    I’m so glad I’m following up Ren so I can disappoint him.

    What the hell does it take to impress you, and why the hell do I care at all, even a little bit, about doing so?

    I have nowhere to put this pain I carry around every day.

    I hate opening up to you only to find you are less sympathetic than I was hoping.

    You are a rockstar.

    You are a rockstar.

    You are a rockstar.

    (repeat)

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Poppy, ummm… why DO you care if it’s so hard to do?

    I was talking about my mom in that one about impressing people. And over the years, she has definitely proven that she’s worth impressing.

    But that’s not a blanket statement I’d make about just anyone.

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  39. Britt's Mom July 15, 2009 7:23 pm

    You know, I’ve thought about this all day since we spoke. Britter, if more people did this, the world would be a measurably better place. I am so tickled to see what a really GOOD person you are.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Britt’s Mom, *blush* thanks, Mom.

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  40. Monique July 15, 2009 8:35 pm

    What do I want to hear? That I’m enough. Good post, Britt.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Monique, You. Are. More. Than. Good enough.

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  41. ms snarky nice bitch July 16, 2009 10:59 am

    britt~~i am so glad you started the twenty things~~i love it when the positive is focused upon

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @ms snarky nice bitch, me too!

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  42. Kimberly July 16, 2009 6:14 pm

    I know I’m one of these so I’m guessing it’s 7.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Kimberly, you’re the one about trying to figure out which one of us was OBVIOUSLY given up for adoption.

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    Kimberly Reply:

    @Miss Britt, wait a minute…I’m not up there.

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  43. Stephanie July 17, 2009 11:07 am

    I love when you do these! I have missed your blog, I’ve been so busy with Jazz that I have a lot to catch up on!

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Stephanie, you’re in luck – because I’ve been too busy with damn near everything to do much of anything worth while here!

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  44. Mocha July 17, 2009 8:16 pm

    Oh, GOD, I wish I had written this and I also wish someone would say these things to me. This was beautiful. I want to do this. Me and memes broke up a while ago but I’d take that slut back for just a brief affair to do this.

    You’re wonderful.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Mocha, sometimes a quickie affair is nice. ;-)

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  45. father muskrat July 18, 2009 10:16 am

    It seems a good 50% or more of these are directed at me. For that, I must say “thanks.”

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @father muskrat, you’re welcome :-)

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