And once again, The Internet will be playing the role of Family

by Miss Britt on March 2, 2009

“Are all of your friends bloggers?” Susan was looking around my house at the birthday party guests that had arrived. It was hard to miss the fact that nearly all of the adults were faces she recognized from twitter or some other Internet portal.

“Well, a lot of them are,” I explained.

“Man, none of my friends even get blogging,” she said. I realized that she was confusing the chicken for the egg in my friends to bloggers ratio.

“My friends don’t blog,” I tried to explain. “Most of these people are my friends because of blogging. I mean, I met almost everyone I know down here through the Internet.”

And the conversation wandered down some other path as Emma’s birthday party continued around us.

Emma’s birthday party was a raging success.

And once again, I have the Internet to thank.

I took a lot of the ideas that you guys gave me last week about what to do for a kid’s birthday. I scratched the traditional cake and took you up on letting the kids decorate their own cupcakes. I found a super cheap pinata and bubble machine (which doubled as one of Emma’s birthday presents!) at Wal-Mart. And mostly, I just let the kids run around while the adults talked over chips and cracks and pop and wine.

So truly, thank you for your inspiration. It’s nice to have a community like you all to turn to when my own fried brain is coming up empty.

Of course, even more than the planning ideas, I was reminded once again of the power of this blogging community as I explained my guest list to Susan. And later, as Jared and I marveled together over what Emma had experienced, I took stock over how much my family has benefited from this little blog.

Most of you already know this story, but it bears repeating. For me.

We moved here (where here is central Florida) about 18 months ago. We knew nobody, except my boss. Who I’d met on the Internet.

But it didn’t take long for the local bloggers here to reach out to me. They volunteered to be our family when the holidays came around. They invited me to movies and lunches and insisted we get to know one another. They even offered to by a girlfriend when I needed one the most.

It’s freaking hard to make friends as an adult in a new place. It’s even harder if you work in a tiny company and/or you find yourself getting kicked out of the local mom groups. I can’t imagine what I would have done if I hadn’t had the benefit of the Internet to provide common interests and an outgoing community.

This post is really late and rambly and devoid of pictures because of TWO dead camera batteries, but my point is -

thank you.

And don’t ever let anyone tell you the Internet is weird. Or bad.

Or that these people aren’t real people.

Because my kids can tell you, the families who show up at their door over and over again to celebrate with them – they are as real as it gets.

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27 Comments so far

  1. Allison Blass March 2, 2009 4:38 pm

    I moved to the NYC area almost 2 years ago. I have been blogging for awhile, so I knew some people in the area when I came here. I knew them because I have diabetes, and so do the other bloggers. I have met a lot of friends and people I’m close with from blogging about diabetes, but not a lot of people in my actual local area. I have had to travel hours to see these bloggers, or wait for some kind of event we’re all going to. I’m hoping to branch out and maybe meet some more bloggers near where I actually live. Thanks for inspiring me to get out there and be more proactive!

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Allison Blass, at first it was just luck that I knew some people that lived here. But then I started going to a few local internet events and that helped.

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  2. Susan Payton March 2, 2009 4:43 pm

    The party WAS a raging success. And I’m excited. If I ever do move, I hope that I can find the same community you have through my blog and Twitter. Lord knows they weren’t really useful 4 years ago when I struggled to find a friend or 2.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Susan Payton, I think 4 years ago it wasn’t NEARLY as mainstream.

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  3. Shash March 2, 2009 4:56 pm

    We had a blast and I have photos for you. Should be arriving shortly.

    My boys are looking forward to the next get-together! They apparently will brave potential car sickness to see ya’all again. That’s devotion, people! :)

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Shash, YAY!!! :-)

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  4. Robin March 2, 2009 4:57 pm

    To me, people are people and I take friends where I can find them…..luckily for me, the internet has been better to me than the world at large in that regard. :)

    I am glad your party was a success!!

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Robin, damn straight.

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    Robin Reply:

    @Miss Britt, I just shouted you out on my blog….go see why.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Robin, of course I see it on Twitter first. SO CRAZY!!! Thanks for letting me know.

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  5. Hilly March 2, 2009 5:20 pm

    People often freak out when they ask me where I am going to move after the divorce and I say, “I dunno…wherever I have some friends”. The truth is that there are wonderful people all over this here US (and Canada) and I know 85% of them because of blogging.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Hilly, this is why you’re my people. We don’t, for the most part, think each other are crazy. LOL

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  6. Avitable March 2, 2009 5:23 pm

    I’m sorry that I didn’t realize that a four year old wouldn’t want razor-sharp ninja stars for a birthday gift. It was still fun, although I’m having trouble getting used to this eyepatch.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Avitable, that would have been funnier if Emma wouldn’t actually LOVE razor-sharp ninja stars.

    It’s not the four year old who would have had an issue.

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  7. Poppy March 2, 2009 5:28 pm

    Now I wish I’d been at the party. But I was at this other blogger’s family’s party… now my family. :)

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Poppy, you get it. ;-)

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  8. Blondefabulous March 2, 2009 5:34 pm

    How awesome the party turned out great! I know what you mean about internet “family”. You guys rock hard!

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Blondefabulous, we have our moments, yes?

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  9. Kelly March 2, 2009 5:41 pm

    Same boat here. Just moved from the east coast out to SoCal at the end of October. All the family is in MI and our “extra” family all still reside on the east coast. I thought that being a SAHM and being at the kids school 3 times a day would mean I would meet someone, at some point. No one. The internet is my saving grace when I’m feeling lonely. I don’t do well in standard social situations (ie playgroups) because of my anxiety. But it would be nice to know people to go get a drink with or have over to just hang out. DH even mentioned it the other day.

    Ah, shit…it sounds like I’m whining, I’m not I promise – only complaining slightly ;)

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Kelly, it absolutely is nice to have that face to face go out for a drink person. That’s partly why I am so grateful for the local bloggers I’ve met and made a point of meeting offline.

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  10. Clown March 2, 2009 5:54 pm

    I tried to convince Beardface to take the little girl in your office. Really, you should take it sometime, we won’t mind. It can be a life-size friend for Emma!

    A friend without a face.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Clown, I told Beardface I’d kill him if he even considered it.

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  11. Sybil Law March 2, 2009 6:03 pm

    Hahaha @ Clown!
    I am really glad her party worked out well! It sounds perfect.
    And I think anyone who blogs knows what you mean about internet/ blogging friends. You’re awfully likable, though, so you could make friends anywhere! (Minus the mommy groups, and those bitches don’t count, anyway! :)

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Sybil Law, you’d think, right? And yet – it’s harder than I thought it would be! LOL

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  12. whall March 2, 2009 6:03 pm

    Devil’s advocate question: would you say, then, your bday party confirms that, until you meet someone in person, “internet friends” are still less-than in significant ways?

    Discuss.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @whall, no. And this birthday party isn’t my first run in with internet friends becoming IRL friends.

    But no, it doesn’t make them more significant necessarily. It just helps to fill a separate need for face to face interaction.

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  13. whall March 2, 2009 6:05 pm

    And of course what I should have included was how happy I was that your daughter had an awesome party, no matter how it came about.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @whall, me too. :-)

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  14. J from Ireland March 2, 2009 6:28 pm

    I am so happy the party was a sucess.
    You are so lucky to have met and clicked with people you met through the internet.
    Nobody I know even reads blogs.
    I have to explain what a blog is and where I get these fantastic ideas or funny stories from.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @J from Ireland, I think that is pretty common. Blogs – and even the Internet itself – is still such a subculture. I think unless you meet them there, the odds are pretty low of anyone really ‘getting’ it.

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  15. mare March 2, 2009 7:19 pm

    Sweet-pea? Kudos to you and yours. The sun shines equally on each of us if we recognize it.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @mare, awwww, thanks. :-)

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  16. hello haha narf March 2, 2009 7:26 pm

    wheeeeeeeeee! oh britt, i am thrilled that emma’s party went well. any time good people are together a fun time is bound to ensue.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @hello haha narf, thanks babe. :-)

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  17. Faiqa March 2, 2009 7:36 pm

    My daughter now thinks you’re a rock star. Too.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Faiqa, oh my gosh I was SO excited that she talked to me! Like, lots! Like the same way she talked to BECKY!!

    I think I’m kind of a stalker of your daughter. LOL

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    hello haha narf Reply:

    @ Faiqa and @Miss Britt,

    obviously i need to get back down there. britt and i are totally competing for the love of your sweet daughter. she with the most conversations wins!

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @hello haha narf, Uh, yeah. I helped her decorate a cupcake. You’re screwed.

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  18. Melanie (Modern Mami) March 2, 2009 7:49 pm

    We had a good time. Thanks for welcoming us into your home. My daughter was pretending Emma was here and she was giving her the “surprise”. ;)

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Melanie (Modern Mami), awwww. Your daughter is so adorable. Not a shy bone in that girl’s body.

    Too bad your husband hates us. :-P

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    Melanie (Modern Mami) Reply:

    @Miss Britt, Hate is such a strong word. :-P

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Melanie (Modern Mami), yah, and Jared is blaming it all on me! Something about “not manly” or some crap!

    I told him that was obviously ridiculous and men love to see other men’s wives say stupid shit about them. Right?!?!

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  19. Melanie (Modern Mami) March 2, 2009 8:44 pm

    Of course! Tell @mrbritt to pipe down. He was trying to get our kids to use bats!!!

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Melanie (Modern Mami), he said “I’ll use this bat on you, woman!” and then he said to tell your husband he said that.

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    Melanie (Modern Mami) Reply:

    @Miss Britt, Did he say it standing behind you or in front of you?

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Melanie (Modern Mami), um. uh. Which one is more manly?

    THAT one.

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Miss Britt, oh my fuck WAIT! I just got that!

    DEFINITELY NOT BEHIND ME.

    I’m sorry, but aint no friend in the fucking WORLD worth agreeing to that shit. Hell no.

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    Melanie (Modern Mami) Reply:

    @Miss Britt, uhhh you realize that was completely violent and non-sexual, right? As in, he was using you for protection when he said it. Maybe we should just end this here. LOL

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    Miss Britt Reply:

    @Melanie (Modern Mami), ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

    Yes.

    Of course I knew that.

    I mean, what would that say about ME if my mind went to “anal rape” before protection?

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  20. Sarah March 2, 2009 9:44 pm

    I am so happy that Emma had a good birthday! I was just thinking about how her party went this morning too.

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  21. Coal Miner's Granddaughter March 2, 2009 9:59 pm

    I’m so very glad that Emma’s party was a rousing success and that you, too, had a great time with the friends you’ve made through blogging. It gives me hope! :)

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  22. Hockeyman March 2, 2009 10:01 pm

    Wait, you’re real? AND you live in the same area as me? Hmmm, I better watch what I say now!

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  23. Elaine at Lipstickdaily March 2, 2009 10:01 pm

    You rock! Well done.

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  24. Angie [A Whole Lot of Nothing] March 2, 2009 10:30 pm

    I hear ya. It’s nice living in Orlando where people actually come HERE and we can butt in on their vacations.

    We need to plan on the Tijuana Flats date w/ Shash. Free queso.

    I love the internet and the free shit it gives me.

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  25. NYCWD March 3, 2009 8:47 am

    So who do I hold responsible for no pictures of Avitable playing the part of the pinata’???

    Duracell or Energizer?

    Glad it was a great time!

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  26. Turnbaby March 3, 2009 9:44 am

    So glad Emma’s party went well.

    And I so get it.

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  27. Dory March 5, 2009 4:20 pm

    I’m envious. I don’t know any other bloggers IRL. But I’ve made some hawsum friends all over the world.

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