Comments on: Scared http://miss-britt.com/2008/08/scared/ Dignity is Overrated Fri, 19 Mar 2010 03:56:40 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc hourly 1 By: tanyetta http://miss-britt.com/2008/08/scared/comment-page-3/#comment-34748 tanyetta Wed, 17 Sep 2008 17:45:21 +0000 http://miss-britt.com/?p=819#comment-34748 What does this part mean: ***I know that his goodness is bigger than the long nights alone without a phone call. *** What does this part mean:

***I know that his goodness is bigger than the long nights alone without a phone call. ***

]]> By: Lucky http://miss-britt.com/2008/08/scared/comment-page-3/#comment-33945 Lucky Sun, 31 Aug 2008 15:45:32 +0000 http://miss-britt.com/?p=819#comment-33945 I'm a first time reader...this post was featured on Marriage Hacks/League of Extraordinary Wives and I can relate. I read through all the comments and wanted to add one thing... I used to feel really resentful until I came to terms with two things: 1. My husband shows his love for me and our children by being an extremely hard worker. 2. I needed to change my attitude. Once I adopted the attitude that everything I do is to BLESS my family, I became at peace with it. I dislike cooking and HATE cleaning up and so I used to grumble and complain about it all the time. It kinda consumed me to be honest. But now I truly don't mind because I am cooking the meal to nourish my family and cleaning up is just part of it. Once I changed my attitude and stopped complaining, I felt MUCH better about it. And my husband started doing more too. I'm adding you to my reader because I appreciate your honesty. The bottom line is if you love him, NEVER give up. Best wishes! Lucky I’m a first time reader…this post was featured on Marriage Hacks/League of Extraordinary Wives and I can relate. I read through all the comments and wanted to add one thing…

I used to feel really resentful until I came to terms with two things:

1. My husband shows his love for me and our children by being an extremely hard worker.

2. I needed to change my attitude. Once I adopted the attitude that everything I do is to BLESS my family, I became at peace with it. I dislike cooking and HATE cleaning up and so I used to grumble and complain about it all the time. It kinda consumed me to be honest. But now I truly don’t mind because I am cooking the meal to nourish my family and cleaning up is just part of it. Once I changed my attitude and stopped complaining, I felt MUCH better about it. And my husband started doing more too.

I’m adding you to my reader because I appreciate your honesty.

The bottom line is if you love him, NEVER give up.

Best wishes!
Lucky

]]> By: Sarcastica http://miss-britt.com/2008/08/scared/comment-page-3/#comment-33914 Sarcastica Fri, 29 Aug 2008 18:17:25 +0000 http://miss-britt.com/?p=819#comment-33914 I know you're probably going to laugh at me when I say this Britt but I understand completely where you're coming from. Being unable to live without someone, yet knowing that they won't change is the hardest thing ever. I know you’re probably going to laugh at me when I say this Britt but I understand completely where you’re coming from. Being unable to live without someone, yet knowing that they won’t change is the hardest thing ever.

]]> By: Ginger http://miss-britt.com/2008/08/scared/comment-page-3/#comment-33663 Ginger Tue, 26 Aug 2008 00:46:49 +0000 http://miss-britt.com/?p=819#comment-33663 :hug: to Laurie :hug: to Laurie

]]> By: Laurie http://miss-britt.com/2008/08/scared/comment-page-3/#comment-33662 Laurie Tue, 26 Aug 2008 00:40:46 +0000 http://miss-britt.com/?p=819#comment-33662 Hi, sometimes it is important to listen to someone because, just maybe, they walked in some shoes you haven't - and thank goodness, you haven't. My husband and I didn't agree on everything - sometimes we were cross. I am 46 - we were together 20 years - he died. I know you have no emotion for this, for you do not know me. But, you have emotion for your husband. Love and keep loving (as you said) all that is good in him. Find a way to make the other parts work for both of you. I am sure, if you ask him - he will join up with what is frustrating you and be a partner. Don't blog about him. He is sacred. Give him the respect he deserves as you also do. Love each other and never let another opinion of someone ELSE influence your love. You love him period! Hi, sometimes it is important to listen to someone because, just maybe, they walked in some shoes you haven’t – and thank goodness, you haven’t. My husband and I didn’t agree on everything – sometimes we were cross. I am 46 – we were together 20 years – he died.

I know you have no emotion for this, for you do not know me. But, you have emotion for your husband.

Love and keep loving (as you said) all that is good in him. Find a way to make the other parts work for both of you. I am sure, if you ask him – he will join up with what is frustrating you and be a partner. Don’t blog about him. He is sacred. Give him the respect he deserves as you also do. Love each other and never let another opinion of someone ELSE influence your love.

You love him
period!

]]> By: Shawna http://miss-britt.com/2008/08/scared/comment-page-3/#comment-33660 Shawna Mon, 25 Aug 2008 23:41:31 +0000 http://miss-britt.com/?p=819#comment-33660 Man, I didn't even get through half the comments. Seems too many of us could have written this post. I have a really lovely husband compared to most of my friends and yet things in our household are not equal. He is aware of it too and not sure how to change it either, largely because I AM A CONTROL FREAK. I discovered very early on that if I want something done right, it's just easier to do it myself. Except that I am doing it for six people. Something's gotta give. I know you're not looking for advice, catharsis is what blogging is all about. But as you told me, the comments are what keep us from talking to ourselves. Good luck! Man, I didn’t even get through half the comments. Seems too many of us could have written this post. I have a really lovely husband compared to most of my friends and yet things in our household are not equal. He is aware of it too and not sure how to change it either, largely because I AM A CONTROL FREAK. I discovered very early on that if I want something done right, it’s just easier to do it myself. Except that I am doing it for six people. Something’s gotta give. I know you’re not looking for advice, catharsis is what blogging is all about. But as you told me, the comments are what keep us from talking to ourselves. Good luck!

]]> By: Who Wears the Apron in YOUR House? | carolynbahm.com http://miss-britt.com/2008/08/scared/comment-page-3/#comment-33650 Who Wears the Apron in YOUR House? | carolynbahm.com Mon, 25 Aug 2008 19:18:07 +0000 http://miss-britt.com/?p=819#comment-33650 [...] in housekeeping, errand running, and the other necessary minutia of daily life. If I have read her post accurately, she is deeply frustrated by the unequal division of labor in her household but [...] [...] in housekeeping, errand running, and the other necessary minutia of daily life. If I have read her post accurately, she is deeply frustrated by the unequal division of labor in her household but [...]

]]> By: Midlife Slices http://miss-britt.com/2008/08/scared/comment-page-3/#comment-33627 Midlife Slices Mon, 25 Aug 2008 14:09:37 +0000 http://miss-britt.com/?p=819#comment-33627 It might have been said already but if not, IT'S JUST IN THEIR GENES. Most of them don't get it and never will and that's why we're the strong ones because we're the ones who have to learn to deal with the turbulance or jump out of the airplane without a parachute. It might have been said already but if not, IT’S JUST IN THEIR GENES. Most of them don’t get it and never will and that’s why we’re the strong ones because we’re the ones who have to learn to deal with the turbulance or jump out of the airplane without a parachute.

]]> By: BlondeBlogger http://miss-britt.com/2008/08/scared/comment-page-3/#comment-33608 BlondeBlogger Mon, 25 Aug 2008 08:43:33 +0000 http://miss-britt.com/?p=819#comment-33608 Having the hindsight of your latest post, I know not to give advice (not that I had any, but still). I just want you to know that I'm listening and I care. :hug: Having the hindsight of your latest post, I know not to give advice (not that I had any, but still). I just want you to know that I’m listening and I care. :hug:

]]> By: Shelli http://miss-britt.com/2008/08/scared/comment-page-3/#comment-33603 Shelli Mon, 25 Aug 2008 05:43:03 +0000 http://miss-britt.com/?p=819#comment-33603 Wanna know what I did? I'll tell you and you can use it or don't. I stopped doing it all. For one, I just couldn't do it all anymore because of my health. Yeah, the house fell apart a little, but you know what? He picked up the slack. He does the dishes. I can't remember the last time I did the dishes. The kitchen is his domain. By that I mean, he does all the cooking, he does the dishes, he does the grocery shopping and he cleans the kitchen. He also helps with the rest of the house and the laundry. I know I have it good. I know it because it hasn't always been this way. Wanna know what I did? I’ll tell you and you can use it or don’t. I stopped doing it all. For one, I just couldn’t do it all anymore because of my health. Yeah, the house fell apart a little, but you know what? He picked up the slack. He does the dishes. I can’t remember the last time I did the dishes. The kitchen is his domain. By that I mean, he does all the cooking, he does the dishes, he does the grocery shopping and he cleans the kitchen. He also helps with the rest of the house and the laundry. I know I have it good. I know it because it hasn’t always been this way.

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