Don’t you hate it when you read a post where someone is bitching about something in the blogosphere and you think to yourself “Oh my God they are talking about ME!” and you want to run off to your own blog and write a raving post defending your own honor – except if you do you have to be all vague and discreet because if they are NOT talking about you, you will look like an ass and if they ARE talking about you they will just pretend like they’re not – and then when you’re all vague and stuff you will get 50 emails from people saying “Oh my God who are you talking about send me the link so that I can get all up in this new blog drama!!” and you go “Ack! Ack! No! No drama! Because I am probably just being stupid and now I feel like I am in junior high and Shit! Shit! Everything anyone has ever said about me is truuuuueeeee!”?
Me too. (See, this is what I love about you. You get me, Internets. You so do.)
I’m allowing myself this raving post defending my own honor anyway.
I recently read this on a blog that I frequent:
“I don’t have a personal identity crisis every four days so people can leave a message to get me to keep my chin up. I don’t secretly hate my marriage.”
I then read this about 24 hours later in the comments of the same blog:
“I am so sick of hearing about pedicures and diets and seeing people’s chest shot and hearing about pregnancy, like the stuff you were saying in your last post, or even the occasional supposedly “profound” post with commenters parroting “what a beautiful post, Bravo”.
Yuck.”
Allow me to suspend reality for just a moment and draw you in to a little place I like to call Britt’s Crazy Ass Brain. In this special place, when I read those words, the chatter immediately went to:
“Oh my God. Did he really just say that? He’s so clearly talking about me and the fact that I am constantly having something going on that I have to puke about on my blog. The marriage crack was pretty fucking low.
Wait a minute, and now someone is pissed about my hiLARious pedicure posts? And my brilliantly “profound” posts?!?! (Because clearly, if someone is talking about a “supposedly profound post” – they must be talking about me. Because I HAVE NO PROBLEM WITH AN EGO! Stop judging me!)
Why would they say that stuff about me? Why do they hate me? Why am I such a cry baby pee pee pants drama queen? Why can’t I come up with something to write that will not offend or annoy or alienate anyone in the whole wide world?!?!”
Now you know why we don’t call it “Britt’s Rational and Hugely Mature Brain.”
I tell you all that to tell you this:
I am fully aware that my response is irrational. I am also aware that whether those particular statements were directed specifically at me or not, it doesn’t change the fact that it is a common sentiment among bloggers. It is all too often that you find one of us eager to berate the quality of another’s content. Nor does it negate the fact that I really, really badly want to say this:
Fuck. Off.
It’s not a “personal identity crisis” or an attempt to get people to tell me to “keep my chin up”. It’s being 28 years old, married and having two kids. I’m not supposed to have shit all figured out just yet. There is always “something” – because at this stage in a person’s life there is Always. Something.
YAY for you that you’ve lived long enough to never question yourself anymore. YAY for you that you know exactly Who You Are and What You Believe. I guaranfuckingtee you weren’t at that point before you hit 30.
This isn’t needy or attention seeking or over dramatic or “supposedly profound”. This is what life fucking looks like when you’re still searching for your bearings in an ever changing landscape.
And another thing.
I am so sick and tired of listening to people opine about what a blogger “should” or “should not” write about. Who the fuck do you people think you are?
There is a woman who takes pictures of her dog every day. And people love it. There is another woman who goes out of her way to ensure that her blog has no teeth – and it is exactly what lots and lots of people look forward to every day. There is yet another woman who posts random thoughts as they occur to her about completely varied and random topics – sometimes blowing up my feed reader 5 times a day – and people love that too.
There are millions and millions of blogs posted every single day and it doesn’t matter one iota of a fuck if you relate to it or not. Because guess what? Someone else does.
Say you’re “not into it” if you absolutely must add your insignificant commentary to the pile – instead of just moving on to something you are “into”. But your condescension and insults and feigned superiority is nothing more than self righteous bullshit. And it’s mean.
And worse, it has the potential to discourage people from enjoying what they should be focusing on – those connections that mean so much to them. The ability to be heard. How fucking dare you insinuate that someone doesn’t have that right? That one person’s voice is any less valid than the ones you choose to listen to?
And make no mistake – I am not talking about me here. I am blessedly past the point of letting one person’s distaste for me and my style drown out the voices of support and encouragement. But there are others with less support, smaller audiences, and less confidence in their right to be themselves – and I watch them cower under your self appointed authority.
I watch them try to pass it off as humor and nonchalance when they say “heh, sorry, I do that. Oh well.” and then vanish from their own sites for days. They scurry back into the darkness and silence like children, convinced that if they can’t do it “right” they shouldn’t even bother.
And for what? Because some self important ass can’t understand why one site is more “popular” than another?
Again I say to you, Fuck. Off.
Is it too late for me to add a disclaimer to this post saying “I’m not specifically directing all of this at YOU. But.. um.. yeah. You’ve hit a nerve.”?
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Re: whoever it was saying they are sick of hearing about pregnancy? Then don’t read that blog. But, MY GOD, I’m sorry, it may not be to you – but pregnancy is probably a big deal to the person who is pregnant and isn’t that ultimately what your BLOG is about – the major things in your life?
The thing that really bothers me about these comments – they could have been stated in a more diplomatic fashion. Whether it was about you, the guy next door, or some other blogger – those comments obviously were typed out with the intention to hurt or at least make someone feel bad about themselves and that’s not right.
We all have the right to our own opinions on our blogs, but that doesn’t mean we have the right to strike out and cause discomfort for someone else.
Shutting up now.
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But what if your style of blogging is to complain about other people’s blogging styles? It’s like some weird type of post modern blog post review post, or a pomobloporepo.
I can’t wait until you read my post where I give my very specific definition of mommyblogger and explain why I hate them and they’re the worst type of bloggers out there.
:heartbeat:
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I think the great thing about blogging is there ARE so many varied bloggers covering a variety of topics and we can read and comment, read and not comment, or not read. We have that choice and people who say shitty stuff about other bloggers outright or passive aggressively on other blogs is just lame and rude.
You’ve accomplished a lot for being 28. At 35, I suddenly feel old.
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Hey, I’m over 30, and I still don’t know where the fuck I am, or what I’m doing. It’s not just an under 30 thing.
With that said, go you!
I’ve always been of the mindset that if you don’t like what someone is writing about, THEN DON’T READ IT!!
Seriously, it’s not that hard to click the little “X” up in the corner.
People just bitch to bitch. And no one has the right to tell other people what to write about on their own personal blog.
Period.
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Amen to that Britt.
That’s all I’ve got to say because you took the words outta my mouth.
Hopefully this will help some people understand… Then again, those people aren’t going to listen anyways.
Fuckers!
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Fuck ‘em if they can’t take a joke. Or something like that. Seriously, I write for me. Sometimes I’m up, sometimes I’m down, that’s life. I don’t fit in a nice neat cubbyhole. Lots of bloggers don’t. That’s what I like. My friends are genuine people. I connect with that.
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What. The. Fuck. Ever.
You know what, half of that shit said in those comments could have been said about me too (except kids and pregnancy) and I am 36 years old. I don’t care if someone wants to be so cynical (as this person obviously is) and look at the blog world as a place to show only the surface, never breaking down or needing help…they have no right to judge those that do.
Erm, gee…sorry my life is fucked up right now and it doesn’t suit you that I am going through emotional ups and downs. Here, have a gin and tonic and shut the fuck up while you judge me.
Uh, yeah..so my brain works a little like yours but a bit more PMSy, I think
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Good for you for posting this. Chin up and all that
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Yeah! Damn straight! I love it when you let loose. Teach those lousy bastards a lesson.
This is why I love you.
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I’m a dog. I’m 8 months old. Not peeing in the house overnight is a big thing for me. I try really hard not to.
Am I wrong for having my own blog and writing about me? It’s my life .. I write what I want. If someone wants to read it – that’s there choice.
Keep doing what you do. You do it well.
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i wonder if people hate bloggers who blog about blogging where they blog what they blog.
or uhm. I just wanted to leave a comment
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No one has life figured out, no matter what the age. The second you think you do, you’re in real trouble. Also, that means you’re a self righteous asshole
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I know what you mean, though. I’ve read blogs I don’t really care for – but I don’t rip on them. I just do this novel thing: I don’t read them. It’s really pretty simple!
I’m not sure those comments were about you, but I love your blog.
And I can’t wait to read Avitable’s post, either. No wonder he hasn’t come to my blog in forever! (I’ve done a lot of posting my daughter, lately.) Still – I’m not a mommy blogger! I am mom who blogs. Suck it, Fucker!
(Oh and that last sentence was for him.)
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Well, I’m 32 and I still don’t have shit figured out. I may NEVER have shit figured out, but hey… I still do all right for myself regardless.
I’ve never understood people who feel the need to complain about how someone else blogs. For every person that thinks a blog is boring or overrated, there are usually two or three more who can relate to every word and read it more than faithfully. This I know from personal experience with my own blogs over the years. I mean… like you said. Don’t like it? Don’t read it.
I personally like your blog… the low points as well as the high ones. I like it because it’s honest and it shows many sides of you. That gives ME something to relate to.
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Stop caring what other people think about you.
Really.
Seriously.
Ignore it.
Well, except me. Care what I think.
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There are a lot of whiney ass people in the blogosphere. Lots of people who whine about not getting any comments or whine about other people getting lots of comments. And people who think that their blog or their writing is sooooo superior that they shouldn’t have to comment on other blogs, everybody should just come flocking to their blog automatically. And people who don’t allow comments, or don’t respond to them if they do.
But nothing is worse than the people who take cheap shots at other bloggers while not naming the blogger they’re bitching about. Freaking cowards.
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I think I’m oblivious because I never pick up on stuff like that. What blogs are you reading? I need a new list.
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What kind of person reads a bunch of blogs they don’t like? Are they into self-flagellation? If so, wouldn’t it be more entertaining for everyone if they stripped naked, handed some hot chick a cat o nine, and turned on the webcam?
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Preach it sister!
hgreatone:
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I’m too self-centered to be really concerned if other people hate my blog. Or perhaps, just too oblivious. I revolve around the blogs I enjoy and just kind of ditch the ones I don’t. If it ain’t funny, it really ain’t for me. And you, my dear, are HI-larious. Keep on keepin’ on.
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I’m over 40 and haven’t gotten my shit together yet. In fact, i doubt it will ever happen.
So when are we going to see some of those chest shots?
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This really does get on my tits! Britt, this is your space, you write whatever the hell you want on it. If people don’t like it they can bugger off anytime!
I don’t remember there being a rule book for starting up a blog – I certainly didn’t get given one. Who’s to say what’s “allowed” or not? This “Blog Police” shit really does piss me off – can you tell? :crazywife:
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You put it very well. For me it doesn’t matter what people say. I do this for me and the people who enjoy reading my posts. If they don’t like it they can fuck right off. Of course it will upset me if they say something about me behind my back but I won’t think too much about it. Live and let die, my friend. Live and let fucking die.
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Shit. I’m 38 and I sometimes have NO idea where I’m going or where I wanna be. While I’d like to say it gets easier as the years pass…..ummmm yeah. I can’t.
Blog about what you want to blog about. As for the blog posts you took to heart and they hit a nerve, so they hit a nerve. The person may NOT have been talking about you, but it hit a nerve. Again, so what?
I am quite oblivious to where this came from. Maybe I’m reading the wrong blogs? LOL I’ve been known to be one of those people who say “oooh who are you talking about? Send me a link!” We all need a little entertainment.
Don’t let what people say get to you. People, places and things will only have control over you and your emotions if you give it to them.
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i will be 37 in july and still don’t have my shit together. but i am primarily happy and try to be a decent person. sometimes i judge, but i make an honest effort not to. because mostly, i judge myself more harshly than i judge others.
when folks get to blog bashing i was never able to understand it. i mean, if you don’t like the content of someone’s blog, why go there? life is too damn short to go outta your way to make yourself miserable, for crying out loud. stinks of jealousy to me…
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Yeah, I used to have an identity crisis every 4 days but when I turned 30, it all changed. Now I’ve gotten it under control. I crossed out the names on my days of the week underwear and replaced them with a number system. And you know what? Every other day is bliss.
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AmyD: I think some people really do think they have the right to hurt other people if it is “their opinion”.
How the hell did we get to that point??
avitable: I don’t have to read it – I’ve had to listen to it live and in person.
And again, I say to YOU – Fuck. Off.
(Of course, I say it with luuuuurrrrve)
sizzle: I had a head start. LOL
“Lame and rude”. Jeez. That’s such a nicer way of saying it. LOL
adena: wait a minute… I thought I only had 2 years left of this and then I would be Done. No???
I am so fucked.
Krystle: no, they won’t. But I hope someone who WRITES the “not cool blog” reads it.
And changes their tagline to “Fuck Off”. Heh.
Karl: well, except me. I am not a real genuine person. I am a FemBot waiting to attack you on JetBlue.
Hilly: hahahahahhaha
I am laughing and nodding and wanting to hug you and high five you and “fuckin’ right!” you all at the same time reading your comment.
RW: I hope that’s true. :heartbeat:
CharlieDaniels: I’m not worried about ME stopping. I’m a full blown addict.
But thank you.
bluepaintred: OR…
Hello Kettle? Yes. I know. LOL
Sybil Law: yeah, I don’t know if they were about me either. Statistically, odds are good that they were NOT. But it fits just the same.
Wait… have *I* been to your blog recently?!?!
Shannon Hilson: exactly – for all the people who bitch, there is someone else who loves it. In theory, that should be enough.
Poppy: WOMAN!! I give you this quote:
“And make no mistake – I am not talking about me here. I am blessedly past the point of letting one person’s distaste for me and my style drown out the voices of support and encouragement. But there are others with less support, smaller audiences, and less confidence in their right to be themselves – and I watch them cower under your self appointed authority.”
I can be infuriated on principle without letting it affect me. Remember what I said yesterday? JUSTICE COMPLEX!!! LOL
Jay ahem. Yes. Kettle. Or am I pot? :cheese:
I should say – I didn’t link here because I actually have a great deal of respect for the blogger and I didn’t want it to be all about that one sentence.
usedtobeme: no, this is a rare, rare thing on blogs *I* read. In fact, I have gone out of my way to weed out any blogs that I might stumble upon this crap.
Winter: now THAT’s a blog you know people would read. In droves.
Mindy: I need a robe.
Captain Steve: I’m imagining that last line in a very Stewie voice. Just so you know.
Just Bob: heh – yeah – I’m pretty sure that part was NOT about me.
Or the pregnancy thing.
Or.. um..
OK FINE!!!!
Penelope: me too. And not to worry – it’s not affecting what I write. But I think more people need to be told it’s OK to do what they want. Fuck the police.
Colin Brooks: live and let die?
Wait. Is that a bastardized cousin of “live and let live”? :eyebrow:
Sodapop: luckily, I have enough respect for the blog host that I knew I could say all of this just because it “hit a nerve” and not have to endure a “this is not about YOU” tirade.
hello haha narf: I was just trying to “explain” you to Jared last night. I think this comment, especially the you completely not understand the motivation behind meanness… does it better than I could.
WTF is that jumbled mess I just wrote??
Here: :heartbeat:
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Kimberly: SEE? I KNEW 30 was going to be GOLDEN!
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Miss Britt :: Yes and it’s also a song.
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whoever the hell set you off, I wanna know, so I can make sure never to go to their blog and to publically boycott them….Whoever they are, they deserve to lose readers….
And as many have stated before…there is not a check list of “shit to handle once you hit 30″. Trust me. I’m 30 and I don’t think I will EVER get my shit all together….I’m just too fucking crazy…and THAT, my friend, IS THE NORM!
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Shit that was totally about me and my boobs! They totally dissed my boobs! (Kidding.)
If folks don’t like it they should move on. Ya know?
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Britt -
Write for you.
And only you.
Like water on a duck’s back, let the rest should go.
~ZZ
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I have no idea exactly what drama you are talking about but oh my God I can relate to this. I sort of thought blogging (at least for me) was trying to figure it all out and a safe-ish place to talk about things I might want feedback on. I definitely don’t have everything figured out and I am 33. Having kids and being married and life in general is sort of hard sometimes. We all could use some support and that is what I have found with my blog. It is nice to read that I’m not alone (duh! I sent you a bunch of emails bugging you telling you that just the other day!) and if I can’t relate to something someone wrote or if I’m not interested or whatever I can click away. It makes me so mad when people cut other people down just because they don’t like/can’t relate to what someone wrote.
I’ll stop ranting now, but I want you to know that I think you are awesome, and whoever does not can suck it.
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Right on! And Write on! Gosh, I am clever!
You do whatever you want to do. I’ve had a bit of an epiphany myself with yesterday’s post. People don’t like what I write, fuck ‘em. I am DONE trying to smooth things over and please everyone.
And Turnbaby and I are planning a pedi-mani post when I get up there. That is the best barometer of how to tell you are doing quality posts–when I start to steal them :clap:
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Can I just say that I *hate* when people are all, “You’re so vain and self-obsessed!” “You’re always writing about yourself!”
Uh, DUH. Did you happen to notice that this is MY website? That I PAY for? With MY name all over it?
I just don’t get why people put the energy into actively leaving hateful comments or writing indignant posts; if you don’t like something, don’t read it, especially when there are billions of other blogs out there.
Anyway, you keep doing your thing. Fuck the haters. :cheese:
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Amen, and amen.
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I seriously can’t believe someone would take time out of their day to criticize something or someone that they read about on the internet. I mean seriously are the 10 years old? In my opinion it’s simple, if you don’t like it, don’t read it. Dont’ be a douche and criticize it. I feel like I’m in high school all over again. :banghead:
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I was under the impression that my blog is for me to write what I want to write. If you want to read it, by all means do, but if you don’t like what you are reading, move the fuck on.
Also, I am 43 and I still am questioning myself. I don’t think that ever changes.
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I see everyone else already commented on what I was thinking… who the fuck are these shitheads to think they are the arbitrators of defining the blogosphere. A blog is what you want it to be. it’s what you make it. I write what I want to write about. I don’t seriously sit down and think, “how do I impress those who will hate my blog with this post?”
I started my blog to get back into writing. I could write for myself, but I wanted to post my writings for all to see. I post about all sorts of subjects I like. If others like it, that’s cool. If some don’t, then don’t read it. Some posts appeal to others… some don’t. Comment if you will. But don’t think that there’s one end all definition to how every single fucking blog needs to be written….
I applaud you, Britt…. for telling this motherfucker to Fuck Off.
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Colin Brooks: a kick ASS song at that.
Cissa Fireheart: absolutely not. That would be silly for you to not go somewhere because I got MY panties in a bunch.
If you’re reading somewhere and find that the negativity and the bitching gets to you, you will know it.
Nat: and to think – you have FABULOUS BOOBS! (I bet.)
Greeneyezz: I know – and I do. I DO write for me.
But I remember when I started out and I read all the “experts” and I was so afraid of doing it wrong. I can’t imagine I’m the only “newbie” who responds that way.
radioactive girl tori: “It makes me so mad when people cut other people down just because they don’t like/can’t relate to what someone wrote.”
That is pretty much what I was trying to say. I suppose I could have just left it at that. LOL
Mr. Fabulous: yeah, I picked up on that. I was actually JUST talking about that with someone yesterday – how surprising it was to see you get all “go fuck yourself”.
And how very, very cool.
steen: welllll…. I probably have lost my right to say anything about people writing indignant posts.
Pamela: we need to get a hymnal up in here.
Lady Jaye: would you be surprised to know I was the girl in highschool stomping my foot bellowing, “that’s not FAIR!!!!!”? No?
Jules: oh my dear God. Tell me it is EASIER at 43 though. Right?!?!?!
martymankins: I’m with you on the “getting back into writing” motivation. And there is something different about writing when you know someone else will read it. It pushes you to a new level I think.
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Well said! Bravo!
Ok. Sorry, I made myself a little sick with that last sentence.
I do tend to be confused with the people who go out of their way to bash other people’s blogs. The internet is so, like, easy to use and if one finds a particular blog or website that doesn’t tickle one’s fancy then why don’t they just click the little “x” in the upper right hand corner and move along? The fact that these folks feel the need to expend their time and energy denigrating someone else speaks more about them than it does about the object of their rant.
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Fuck’em. There are 1,253,985 other blogs they can go judge. We may all be reading it but in the end it’s your blog, not ours. Fuck’em.
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Unfortunately some people need to prop up their egos on the backs of others. It’s a more telling portrait of the person making the statement than one it’s made about. Others generally rub us the wrong way when they make us see something in ourselves we don’t like.
And trust me darlin’, at 40 you’re going to be a force of nature…
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This needed to be said. Sadly, it will need to be said again. And again. And…well you get my point.
Bravo.
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It is at the moment you become popular you find out who your friends are as well. No one likes popularity because they aren’t and they are jealous. They attack what they don’t have to bring people down.
Bill Gates I am sure was a cool guy before he made the right contract with PC. I say good for him and let him be but could he be a little more careful about bugs and glitches. The list of examples could go on and they are on so many levels.
The flip side is having groupies who get obsessive of your work and go beyond normal… the absolute freaks. I don’t mind a little freak going on but some people take it too far.
It’s hard being popular but ya gotta put those side blinders on and be happy you know what to do and you have your “healthy” support.
Next I will be teaching “Red Square 101 – What to do: Shut the fuck up and hit the little red square with the “X” on it! Keep your energy for the things that matter like giving a blow job to your boss to get promoted. At this point it’s all you have going for you.”
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Lessons for the harmful commenters not your.. ::ugh hangs head::
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37. That’s the magic age when it all comes together.
(yeah, not so much)
I see a lot of this, and I wonder what is so difficult to understand about the phrase PERSONAL BLOG.
Or perhaps we need to rethink – Some poor bastards out there are being FORCED to read blogs they don’t like! Oh the horror! Give them back the unsubscribe button you sick sons of bitches!!
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DDDDRRRRAAAAAMMMMMAAAAA!!!! Damn I love a good rant!! No one ever said blogging was for the faint of heart. It sounds as if you are just wanting us all to get along??
I love it when your passionate…. about whatever. Keep it up.
Favorite Line:
“there are others with less support, smaller audiences, and less confidence in their right to be themselves – and I watch them cower under your self appointed authority.”
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I love it when you are all up in arms over some injustice.
That being said, have a Brittini, darling.
I think I have the flu and feel like ass, though.
And that’s what THIS important person has to say about HER important life today!
Hehehehehehehehehehehehehe
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You know what girly… ignore it. Everyone is entitled to an opinion, and their opinion sucks. But it doesn’t change who you are, what you stand for, what your essence is. If you believe in you and what you write, then nobody else matters.
And you know. Fuck ‘em.
:martini:
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Some people never learned that if you don’t have anything nice to say, keep your mouth shut.
:peace:
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“ahem. Yes. Kettle. Or am I pot?
I should say – I didn’t link here because I actually have a great deal of respect for the blogger and I didn’t want it to be all about that one sentence.”
Huh? .. Uh .. No .. uh .. I wasn’t talking about you. I was talking about whoever it was you were talking about. And several others that I’ve seen do similar things.
You know, it’s not ALWAYS about you Britt. LOL
Anyway, I do admit that I will now spend my afternoon going to every blog on your blog roll trying to find the person you were talking about. haha
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Mean people suck donkey balls. So do stupid people.
Keep writing for YOU.
People read what they want, and if they want to read you and be pissy then fuck them.
My blog is FOR ME. And most days sucks, but I enjoy sharing my suckiness with the world. THANK YOU INTERNETS!!!
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I guess maybe a little of you is rubbing off on me. In a good way, not in any way that would be creepy or borderline illegal.
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Good on you sugar. It’ YOURS—your life–your desires and frustrations and moments of tenderness and joy and silly and sad. Who the fuck is ANYONE to question that?
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Steph: I agree with that. LOL
Dragon: well, at the very least “ours”.
Finn: with a title that makes that clear, I hope.
Like “Force Of Nature”.
That would do.
*pixie*: and again, unfortunately.
Zanthera: is it grandiose of me to say that I know what you mean? Because I do. And you’re dead on.
Honeybell:
reader nazis!! oh noes!!!
Willie G: getting along would be GRAND. Sticking to our own corners would be acceptable too.
Britt’s Mom: I love how you are too sick to call me this morning, but not too sick to comment here.
No. Really. Love it. :heartbeat:
zchamu: everyone IS entitled to an opinion. I get that. But shit, at some point when people are just being fucking rude I think it is good manners for someone to stand up and say “you’re being rude. Go fuck yourself now. Thanks.”
Lynda:,/b> exACTly.
Jay: no, lol, no. I know. But still… it’s ironic that it fits, isn’t it?
themuttprincess: I don’t always comment, but I :heartbeat: your daily suckiness.
Wait. Um. That didn’t come out right.
Mr. Fabulous: now if I could just get you to appreciate heels…
Turnbaby: damn straight.
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I am so sorry I have to laugh and say REALLY??? SERIOUSLY???? You of all people let stuff like that get to you???
I really just have to shake my head. I thought, Hell I KNEW you were smarter, more secure, than that crap!
You are who YOU are and I love that about you.
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I love when people comment on a political or career blog (e.g Brazen Careerist) and bitch about personal content. Dude, it’s a *blog*. If you don’t want personal content, read a damn newspaper.
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Poppy’s brain hurts.
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What makes me laugh is that these people take the time to read someone’s site, just to rant about how much it sucks. Obviously, something sucks in their own life. You can never know a person fully just by reading what they write in a blog each day! NEVER! Step off your pedestal people!
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A-fucking-men! This shit is so petty. If someone doesn’t like reading, there’s this handy little x up in the corner they are free to click on. Perhaps their head is too far up their ass that they can’t see the wee x?
How boring would a blog be where every post went something like this? “By golly, I’m awesome. I’m perfect in every way. If you would like to know how to live your life the right way, please contact me for the solution to all of your problems.”
Keep on keeping it real, Britt – that’s why people read you.
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Well, I’m 42. You read my blog. You know that I am nowhere near complete in my transformation to the perfect human being. I think that’s why people read my stuff. They might read it and think “better her than me” or they might think “thank god, it’s not just me” or they might not think anything and never come back. But those who connect, come back. Just like I come back here. You, in all your human foibles, are addictive.
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Um. Word.
And..um..props yo (I’m experimenting with urban-speak today).
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I am a “Mommy Blogger”. Should I duck from the rotten tomatoes now?
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Can I at least go tell the person they are a jerk face? it would make me feel so much better, since I fall in the category of talking about my husband and kids and manicures….
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Thanks. Lately it has had a special suckiness about it. Thanks for sticking around… And it is not needed to comment on everything… I know you are there sometimes…
:martini:
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I’m sick and tired of hearing about pregnancy too.
I want to hear more about HOW they got pregnant.
You know… was there foreplay? Was there orgasm? How many positions? Which were they?
I would adore a photo essay on THAT subject instead of guacamole.
Now do you see the ridiculousness of the comment I just left?
Yeah… with the exception of the part about the guacamole (because I fucking love the guac) then I don’t either.
Maybe I’m onto something.
Bottom line: Blog it all… let Technorati sort it out… and if you don’t like it… there’s always the little X in the corner.
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Trying to remember the last time I cared what someone else thought about what I write on my blog…
Thinking…
Still thinking…
I got nothing.
At age 46, the only person whose blogopinion I care about is myself.
Yes, I like it when people I love read my blog. But I don’t ask them what they think about it.
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….i’ve come late to the part, so everything that can be said, has been said. i’m just glad you said what you said. because i’ve been gone from the blogosphere so long that it’s like i’m starting over, and i’m like a
virginnewbie again, and shit if it doesn’t make me feel a bit nervous about what to write about, and i think i was thinking a bit too much about what others would think, and if they would like it and accept me again, instead of just expressing myself in my own way. i need time to get back in the groove. not to gush here, but this post was a shot in the arm. thanks, brittReply
woops i said ‘part’ instead of ‘party’. yeah, i meant to say that
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Grandiose? Not at all. As much as humans enjoy the security of repetition and knowing what goes bump in the night they also want change… but can’t handle it. I find myself in that awful cycle but remind myself…
“It is not the survival of the fittest nor are the smartest going to survive. It is those who can adapt that will thrive.”
It could be me who said this or something I read or both. From what I have seen since becoming a stalker of yours and from what others hint of what you have gone through (Thanks Avitable for the quiz) you’re adapting quite well.
.oO(I hope this profound mood will settle soon)
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the whole POINT of a blog is its your opinion AND if someone does not like it, don’t read it!
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You know, people are petty.
That is all.
I come hear to read, because although you are almost 10 years younger than me, you seem so much wiser…and I learn from you. And I love the honesty, and how you put it all out there. Hell, I can’t be bothered to post on my own blog but once in a blue moon.
Whoever it is, he should go outside and play Hide-and-go-fuck-himself.
Carry on. :rock:
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This is what’s wrong with America. Change the damn channel or go back to http://www.iloveponies.com if you don’t like what you’re looking at. So to all those trying to tell me what I should read, watch, hear or say on TV, radio, Internet, or anything else I also say Fuck Off!
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The problem with commenting so late is that everyone has expressed all the things I want to say.
So all I can say is “yeah, what they said”.
Have a good weekend!
I’m not worthy…
hgreatone:
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deb: oh sweetie, I am absolutely smarter and more secure than to let any of that affect me and what I DO.
But it still irks me the unfairness of the whole idea.
lizriz: people just like to bitch.
Poppy: mine too!
kilax: now, now wait. Ranting doesn’t necessarily mean their life sucks.
Maybe it just means that um.. say.. they get a bug up their ass and just HAVE TO GET IT OUT OR THEY CAN’T SLEEP!! Or.. heh.. something.
andi:“By golly, I’m awesome. I’m perfect in every way. If you would like to know how to live your life the right way, please contact me for the solution to all of your problems.”
I am so making that my new tagline.
DCup: do you suppose there is a 12 step program out there about women like us?
I hope not. LOL
Erin: thankshizzle.
Andria: I’d say you are more likely to get hit with flying poo. And a sippy cup.
Cissa Fireheart: not unless you’re going to go tell Adam he’s a jerkface for railing on mommy bloggers.
themuttprincess: I am there every day. Comment or not. Because I :heartbeat: you.
NYCWD: I’m sorry – but for the story of how I got pregnant, you will have to buy the book.
(And I’m not joking about that.)
SwanShadow: that is awesome. And fabulous. Truly.
Rayne: this comment? Made the whole thing worth it. Seriously. THIS was my point. For YOU to know you were just fucking FINE.
Zanthera: I have this weird thing where I hate change and thrive on it at the same time. I think that makes me a reluctant, but efficient, adapter.
Jennifer: I thought the point was to make money????
Fuck.
Stephanie: what I wasn’t able (obviously) to make clear in my post is that there wasn’t a “HE”, specifically. In fact, the “HE” whose site I first read that on is someone I have HUGE amounts of respect for.
But there are, instead, lots and lots and lots of HES and SHES out there in the blogosphere spewing shit about “shoulds” and “should nots”.
Hockeyman: I thought it was all those damn Muslims that were wrong with America?!!?!
Sudiegirl: but you are the FIRST to tell me to have a good weekend.
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I got a few days behind on your blog. Thank you for giving me such a wonderful welcome back gift in this post.
I do this all the time. I obsess and worry and analyze myself to pieces. And all that time, two things are niggling at the back of my brain: 1) why don’t they just go read someone else then? and 2) why do I CARE?
But I do. I can’t help it.
I love you, I love your blog, and I love this post.
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This is my better late then never comment: My blog rarely has any substance to it but it’s my blog written by me, for me. It is for my entertainment or my venting and if my one whole reader gets something out of it as well then I’m happy about it.
It wouldn’t be any fun at all if all blogs were written equally.
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I think I love you.
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Hey, I’m 43, and sing with me :’I Still Haven’t Found What I’m Looking For.’ I agree with EVERYTHING you’ve just said. I enjoy reading you because I get where you’re coming from. You’re a genuine person and that is really important in this world. I have a confession though, one of the reasons I read your blog is to catch Avitable’s comments. That guy cracks me up. I can’t wait to read his post about deconstructing the mommy bloggers. You two are very generous in spirit, and all jokes aside, I think people tune in to that. It’s important.
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EFF! You’re younger than me!!!!!!
hehehe, if that’s all I took from this post, I have a problem.
When did blogs stop being an outlet for our thoughts and feelings and start being a popularity contest? Ya know?
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I just noticed that you mentioned me in this post.
I :heartbeat: u. I really wish you weren’t going through this shitty time.
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I don’t use my blog space to tear down other bloggers or criticize their content….I use it to criticize and tear down all the morons and rednecks that live in my dinky town…..hee hee
……okay well……except when I might have mentioned that Fab’s sculpy posts had damaged my fragile mind….but that’s not really criticism….it’s just a fact.
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