I’ve joined a dating site.
I mean, you know, kind of.
Technically, it’s a “social networking” site called Meetup.com. It’s organized by location and interests, and now that I live in a place where there are people, there are actually a few groups right here in my area.
We didn’t have anything like this back home, obviously. Or rather, I never heard of such a thing back “home” because there was just no need. If you wanted to see anyone you could show up at the high school football game. Or the one bar in town. And, voila!, you would be surrounded by friends and family and acquaintances and old boyfriends.
As I may have mentioned a time or two (shut up, stop counting), we don’t really know a lot of people here. And I might be just a teeny, tiny, tad bit lonely for some real life human interaction.
ANYway, I found a group for “working moms” and another one for “mom’s night out”. (I couldn’t find a Moms Who Say F*** or Bitches Who Rock group. Strange.) I asked to join, I got accepted, Yay! I have friends!
Now all I have to do is… show up.
Heh.
What the hell was I thinking again?
To say I’m nervous would be like saying Michael Jackson is “kind of white”. The idea of showing up at one of these little “meet ups” scares the living crap out of me.
What if they don’t like me? What if I don’t like them?
Both of these seem very plausible. Women, as we have covered ad nauseam, don’t always “warm up” to me. The reasons why are numerous and many and mainly boil down to me being so awesome that my light is blinding - I’m pretty sure.
And me? Well, I like to think I like most people. But I haven’t really met a ton of people that I’m too terribly smitten with since moving here. (Except of course for you, you, you and you!)
The thing is, whenever I meet a random group of people who are supposedly my peers, I end up feeling like the odd man out (God help me if I’m ever on trial for anything). I don’t knit or crochet. I don’t have the attention span to “scrap”. I can cook from scratch, but I rarely do because I’m just too fucking tired.
Heh. Fucking. Yeah. I was raised by a construction worker and the daughter of a trucker - and it shows. I might be intelligent and blessed with a very blue bloodline, but I’ve also got a bit of a potty mouth. Do you know some people find that offensive?
And let’s not forget that I’m “abrasive and try too hard”. *rolllllling the eyes*
I just want to meet a bunch of normal, fun, smart, laid back people who like to have a few drinks, laugh at my inappropriate jokes, shop for a little while, and hang out while their kids run wild in the backyard. And if you’ll at the very least allow me to smoke without lecturing me on lung cancer, that would be pretty cool too.
What are the odds I meet anyone like that at a potluck?
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While a huge part of me hopes that they’re all a bunch of uptight overly religious moms who freak out at someone using the word “suck”, much less “fuck”, “shit”, and “cuntfuckwhoretwat”, just so I could hide in a corner and watch them start fainting as you walk in the room, a little part of me hopes you find a few other people to spend time with. As long as it’s not on the days when I want to hang out with you.
I’m on a dating site but I really only stay because my subscription rate is too good to quit. It’s certainly not for the dating — these men are freakin’ whacked!
Social networking can be fun. Show ‘em who’s boss. ;)
I decided to try Meetup the other day, also. Found a group called “Hip Moms” and asked to join. They are having a mixer tonight at a popular bar/grill…drinks, appetizers, socializing… I think thats a good sign!
Good luck! If it doesn’t work, try another one! I can’t wait to hear this storyline play out!
Wait….who said you’re intelligent?
I don’t have the attention span to “scrap……Have you ever TRIED!? Hello? You know that I also don’t have a big attention span!
Find me a big scrap convention down there and I will come and show you HOW you will be able to scrap!
Good Luck! I wish I could be there with you to see how thing go!
I couldn’t do the group thing.
I must have you over! It’s not every day that you meet someone with kids that still likes to chill out and *coughDRINKcough* I can’t promise about the smoking thing but we could work out a deal
I say you show up wearing a shirt with the work fuck on it and a cigarette behind your ear. Maybe black out a front tooth too - just for fun.
avitable: what’s that, like the third saturday of every other month? You know, I need something to do when your wife is in time.
Lola Magnolia:who is boss? me?
Blonde Chick: Hip moms! That’s what I need! (and possibly ‘trashy moms’) Good luck to you too!
Mr. Fab: your wife
Kristin: have I tried? are you fucking kidding me? Do you not remember who hosted a Creative Memories party for you? And I still have the book I bought and allll the shit that went with it. In a bag. Unopened. Like 5 years later.
Peggy: you must! Let’s make a deal - I won’t smoke in your house, while holding your children, or in your face. And also, I will be uber fun. And let you sleep with my husband, if need be.
Kimberly: :lmfao: this literally had me giggling out loud. Maybe I should get a “tat” too!
Don’t forget the part about not caring what everyone else thinks about you. If they don’t like you? Fuck ‘em. (Yeah, my dad was a construction worker and I only had brothers so I don’t talk like a lady, either. Well, except on my blog because my mom and my daughter read and really, I don’t want to embarrass them. Maybe I should rethink that. Maybe they wouldn’t read then and I could be more free…hmmm)
You have a lot more guts than I do. I will tell you this, I think it is great what you are trying to do. You could end up like me. I have been in this town for 2 years and 3 1/2 months I have met three people none of whom are really my friends and I hang out with them oh maybe once every couple months. It is hard, but you are more extroverted than I and in a larger place so I am sure you will have it way easier!!
Good Luck!
Meetup is big in New York because anyone can create a group for any purpose - no one I know uses Meetup for dating, although I am sure some people do. Just join different groups. You’ll find people.
Well you can always drive up here and you and my wife can smoke and shop and swear to your heart’s content. Like a vacation from the usual places you smoke, shop, and swear at. We’re easy! Plus she likes you. God knoweth why.
There are plenty of women out there that like to have fun, drink a little and also swear. There have to be, other wise I would not have any friends. I swear in normal conversation so much my mother keeps telling me that at this rate I will never be a lady. (I never told her I was trying?!!) And I still have friends. SO, with time I bet you will down there too!!!!
HAVE FUN~!
Amen! You are so not alone on this… the few times I’ve joined “moms groups” I’ve ended up being the odd man out. If someone started a nationwide “Moms Who Say F***” I would hang a medal around their neck and bring a six pack.
Have you tried just hanging out at bars after car pool? Maybe you could meet the cool moms there… ;)
1. BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA @ RW
And…
2. Yes, even from 2000 miles away I will be your wingman, Maverick. Tell me when you are going and I’ll call you 30 minutes into it. If all is going well… you can tell me to buzz off, if it’s not, you can say, “Oh my! Emergency at home… I HAVE to go!!!”
Cuz, you know I TOTALLY have your back. :thumbsup:
Britt, I won’t even sleep with my husband so the deal may be for you to not only sleep with yours but mine as well.
My kids are too old to hold (6,8,11) although the 11 year old may like it ;)
My husband smokes also and we have 2 porches. Smoking really isn’t an issue.
You said you liked poker, right?
Hell, between my cigarettes and my wine…
wait, I don’t have any children living at home. Grandchildren who visit..
Shelli: I said I was WORKING on that part, lol. Obviously, not there yet.
deb: I doubt I have more guts than you. You just haven’t chosen “making friends” as something to conquer. Yet. If you had you’d be prom queen by now. ;-)
Nina: I don’t think it’s really a dating site. It just feels kind of funny and awkward like I imagine a dating site would.
RW: I like her too. We should do that. As long as she promises to send YOU off somewhere for the weekend.
themuttprincess: I know, there has to be, right!?!
QofD: the childcare in those bars is really unreliable.
AmyD:
Peggy: LOVE Poker. And I’m not sleeping with my own husband either… so… um…. maybe our husband’s can complain about their wives together?
NotaGranny: children. not. required.
Just here to help.
I think you should start your own group. Call it MILF’s Who Swear Like Sailors. You may be surprised how many Betty Crocker types show up.
I’m sure mine will have a lot to talk about then!
LMAO@ CP!!!
Now I’m dying to find out how it goes because I have the exact same problem. I’m not like the other moms… :dance:
oh yeah that! I think that was more like almost 8 years ago! And…….CM is so old school. There is SO much more involved now….I Am telling you you would love it!
There’s a whole controversy over “Cocktail Play Date” groups, with over 43 percent “for” and 57 percent “against”. Still, those are pretty good odds, I would think you could find one of those groups.
See, this is why you need to live next door to me (check out my comment at RW’s today). We’d get along just fine.
You have no idea just how many people in the Wonderful World of Blogs would love to be able to hang with you. I find you extremely crazy (in a great way) and funny as hell. Just be yourself and if it doesn’t turn out the way you had hoped then it wasn’t meant to be but I have a feeling you will win them over… just sayin…
Shelli: which I very much appreciate, since I am clearly in need of constant reminding! ;-)
CP: hahahahahahhaha, that’s awesome. And we will have shirts! (you know, I really need to find someone who is going to get behind this whole t-shirt obsession of mine)
Peggy: LOL, mine too.
turnbaby: what would I do without your perfectly timed wisdom?
Finn: you KNOW I will keep you all updated.
Kristin: I am telling YOU, you is crazy.
annie: yeah, surprisingly, I probably wouldn’t be real cool at a Cocktail Play Date - I can’t hold my liquor that well. LOL
Mrs RW: and you live in my favorite US city. Maybe I should spend Christmas in Chi-town this year and ditch that whole “family” business all together.
Mindy: actually, it’s because of you guys that I decided to try. I would have never imagined before blogging how many really awesome people there are who like me just as much as I like them. Now to just find a handful close to my actual home.
I’d show you how to knit, but I fall asleep every time I start; it’s better than Prozac for calming the nerves. Do I even need to mention that it takes me a year to even complete a scarf? That’s why I usually just drink a margarita instead. It has the same calming effect, and I don’t feel like a failure for not producing something.
1: What the hell is Scrap?
2: What if they are the wife half of a wife swapping cult? Take pics ok!
3: I am SO supporting the thought of you wearing a White T-Shirt saying MILF… and standing under an overhead water sprinkler. Take pics ok!
4: I don’t really have a fourth, but I want the non-reading skimmers to think I am smarter than I really am. Clever huh?
I will cross my fingers for you. If you do meet some awesome people, it might encourage me to try. :cheesy:
Tense Teacher: I can crochet one long, single row belt.
Y2K: very clever indeed (and you really don’t want to know about scrap, keep your balls).
Maria: I’ll bring you a full report Monday!
Well i’m in the mom’s group and I say FUCK ASS SHIT GO TO HELL, KISS MY ASS! And all the other obnoxious things other may be afraid to say!!!
WELCOME BRIT!!! LOL
I second that Renee. Welcome to the group :thumbsup:
Renee and Traci: I swear that’s not ALLLLL I do! LOL
Looking forward to meeting you both, and thanks for stopping by to ease my nerves.
and I second or is that third Renee and Traci! We may be moms but it doesnt mean we still arent some cool ass bitches!
Beth
Man we’d be best of friends if I lived in FL. You rock!! :-)
This is neat. I hadn’t heard about that site before, and I think it’s just what I need. I wonder if they have a group for grumpy shitheads.
I joined Meet-up for the Seattle blogger get togethers, but have yet to attend one.