Do you ever have one of those times where you come face to face with the fact that your perception of things might be slightly (or possibly dramatically) different than how others perceive things?
For example:
I imagined that Avitable’s Halloween party was fantastic! I hung out with some of the most amazingly fabulous people you could ever hope to share a karaoke mic with. In my head, I was one of several belles of the ball and equally as charming and wonderful as the others.
In reality…
BEFORE
DURING
and AFTER
(click on the pictures to make bigger…)
Dignity, thy name is Hasta La Vista.
Another example:
I imagine myself to be a pretty warm, genuine, fun person. I also imagine, in my head, that everyone would be falling over themselves for a chance to hang out with me. Because I am fun! And happy! And in general pretty fucking nice!
However, I was recently informed in the middle of a certain party that I am not nearly as well liked as one would hope for because I am, in fact “abrasive and try too hard.”
*sigh*
I’m having a crisis of identity this morning.
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You were funny and awesome and a kick-ass person to have at a party because you are like a hot little walking party in a white dress. I’m glad you guys had fun!
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“Abrasive and try too hard”!? I didn’t get that at all this past spring. When you finished Avi’s mashed potatoes and wanted to turn the conversation to religion and politics I knew you were just like, you know, a natural force.
And I sure am getting a lot of mileage off that mashed potato thing ain’t I?
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abrasive can be fun. but you trying too hard? i don’t buy it. me thinks that others most likely were also drinking.
you are awesome. we all know it.
:heartbeat:
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oh, and who is the person in the last photo with you?
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You are a living breathing party all by yourself, darling. Mrs. Fab and I were completely captivated and enchanted by you, as was everyone.
There is always a fly or two in the ointment. Would you believe that there are a few dickheads out there who don’t think I’m funny?
You…are a treasure. I would gladly take a bullet for you any day of the week.
Which…would probably be less painful than that overnight babysitting offer I keep making.
By the way, the funniest line of the night belongs to you husband who, when I once again made the offer, took a look at my giant cock and said something like “You’ll leave that at home, right?”
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As was mentioned previously, forget that whole trying thing. now you can let this person know without a doubt how much you dont give a shit.
On another note, you are making me regret not being at the party, what with all the craziness that is you on everyone elses blogs!
I do have to say, though, that your kiddies are incredibly easy to care for. So much so that we would do it again without hesitation..so that has to say something, right?
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That shit still makes me laugh reading it out loud.
I have a list at Amazon of books that I am prepared to order and have delivered for exactly the purpose we – uh – discussed, such as…
“How to Win Friends and Influence People”
“Social Graces for Dummies” or Idiots or Morons or Whatever It Is
“Emo – the Evolution of Angst”
“Outgrowing the Behavior of Adolescence”
“Having Lots of Friends is Easy When You Have a Small Pool to Draw From”
I gotcher back, babe. And I WANT TO COME TO THE PARTY NEXT YEAR!
Oooooh – I will have vacation by then!!!
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Dignity, thy name is Hasta La Vista.
Best. Sentence. Ever.
Oh, shine the others on. You can’t be liked by everyone all the time and honestly? Sometimes I think that people will accuse you of “trying too hard” or whatever other bullshit because they’re jealous of your social capabilities.
I personally, would LOVE to hang out with you. So if you ever want to come to my Halloween shindigs here in California you are more than welcome. Of course my shindigs consist of throwing candy at trick or treaters while drinking Thunderbird out of a brown paper bag so Avitable’s was probably better.
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:martini: Looks like you had a good time..That,my dear,is ALL that counts.
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ABRASIVE, AND TRY TO HARD, How dare they belittle such a wonderful person such as you. Anyone of character would have used the terms such as callous, porous, irritating, but abrasive, come on now !!! And try to hard, well that takes the cake. We all know you are just an OVER ACHIEVER, STRIVER, and well ambitious beyond belief, but to say ” TRY TO HARD ” Well that is just not right. Besides, we all love you just as you are ???
:banghead: :whip: :angel:
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I have very good information from a very credible source that you are in fact… soft.
Therefore the person speaking of the abrasiveness obviously had way more than you to drink.
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Stupid and try to hard… I’m still flaming over this. Quite frankly, I wish the person who said that read this blog because I, for one, would love to tell her that you do not try hard at all, for some people being NICE doesn’t take such effort.
But, then, I can totally get where a flaming cuntwad piece of shit could never get that. Feel free to pass along that my opinion or the person’s email address and I’ll convey my thoughts on it to him/her personally.
It’s ok, that he/she has “enough friends” and perhaps we won’t advertise that 99% of them are imaginary and that he/she is supposed to be on meds for hearing all those voices.
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avitable: is that why you were hiding from me all night?
RW: LOL, you really are. I’d swear is was the first time you’d heard “you gonna eat that?”
hellohahanarf: maybe. I forget not everyone gets all “i looooove you, man” when they drink. How strange is that?!?
(the person in the last pic is a non-blogger who does not wish to be plastered all over the internet. weanies.)
Mr. Fab: :heartbeat:
How about you two just come on down and hang at the house – no sitter required. They are heavy sleepers.
DeannaBanana: the presence of the dynamic duo of Dee&Lee was definitely missed!!
Mom: you’re so funny when you’re on one! LOL
QofD: and same to you! Although I insist you wear pants. Obviously my waffley ego cannot take an encounter with those Sticks of Divinity you call legs.
gtboat: I did indeed
Terry: and this from a man who is scared of me. :heartbeat:
NYCWD: that’s true, I am soft. And squishy!
AmyD: your loyalty is both overwhelming sweet, and frightening.
If I ever had the need for a corner, you’ll be the first person I put in it. (you will also be responsible for purchasing “supplies”.)
:heartbeat: :heartbeat:
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To All:
You guys really are awesome. And I’m OK. You know (most of you, by now, anyway) how I am.
A picture of self confidence… unless you’re doing anything less than singing my praises! LOL
Is’OK. I’m OK. And you all are FABULOUS!
:heartbeat: :heartbeat:
:heartbeat: :heartbeat:
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Amy said “flaming cuntwad piece of shit”
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Yeah, sometimes I am not the virginal, betty crocker, June Cleaver I portray in the rest of my life.
Hee hee.
And, supplies for THIS particular flaming piece of garbage will include:
ice pick
shovel
cigarettes
bamboo shoots
alcohol
lemon juice
and a large garbage bag.
Use your imagination.
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Abrasive and try to hard? I am so not buying the pity party thing today. You so know you are fabulous! I mean look at you in those pictures…Marilyn Monroe is oh so jealous that she was not you! :nana:
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“Flaming cuntwad piece of shit”
hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha
right up there with “cock slapping monkey fucker” – I think I got that right.
Amy, I adore you.
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What???
Try too hard? Blech. I hope the person who said that got pushed into the pool. Dickhead.
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Abrasive and try too hard? :clap: Good one.
Someone obviously gets less traffic then you.
Sure you can be a bitch. But that’s why I love you so much.
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We all must hang out again…in a more dignified atmosphere…
yeah right. :sex014:
Group orgy? I think our husbands were in love.
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Who would be so classless to be so negative at a party? If they really really really wanted to say it, wouldn’t it be more appropriate to say it when you are one on one? I swear, that person seems really insecure and seems to take pleasure in bringing others down with them.
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Wow, I came over to read your party story and see your pics and was blown away that someone said that to you. Sure, I don’t know you but what kind of a person says that in the middle of a party, FFS? Anyway, my progressive drunk pictures always turn out exactly the same! Glad you all had fun
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Amanda: yeah, Amy’s vocabulary increases in direct proportion to her temper.
AmyD: you’re throwing another Halloween party? :confused:
deb: he he he *smooches* at you chica!
Mom: yeah, likes attracting likes and all.
ADW: well, I think not getting a Christmas card from me is CLEARLY punishment enough!
sam: heh, you sound like my husband.
CP: well I know MINE was at least! LOL
And what is this “dignified atmosphere” of which you speak??
Brandi: or just post it on the Internet. I mean clearly that is a more classy approach!!
Hilly: I did, and Dave had nothing but wonderful things to gush about YOU, by the way.
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sure I am. Just me, one other person, a video camera and the end result will be a video gift for you… the gift that keeps on giving. :heartbeat:
@ Britt’s Mom I see nothing wrong with like attracting like, do you? :dunno:
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Trying to be hard?!! According to more than one commentor on the party your nips were hard as diamonds, so I guess it’s mission accomplished! If not, I am sure Adam has a stash of those little blue pills somewhere arou d the office.
Whazzthat…? They said “trying too hard…?”
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…uh never mind.”
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First time here, but just wanted to say that I saw your video over at Avitables and you totally cracked me up. Thanks for the entertainment!
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Wow, a “hot walking party in a dress”? What other affirmation were you looking for?
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I can tell by those big-ass smiles on y’all’s faces that you were having a smashingly good time. :sex012:
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I am still waiting for Avi to do a proper party post, but that video was awesome.
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I thought you looked like a fun girl having a fun time! People suck sometimes, as I am sure you know already!
Whatever. I wish I could’ve been at the party!
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Sugar–sometimes when folks with lower self esteem feel threatened they make those types of comments to folks they feel are more vibrant in life than them.
Seems you struck a lot of positive and one negative nerve. Good on ya!
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AmyD: :lmfao:
Y2K: I really thought that was a very quick, for Mrs. Avitable’s eyes only flash. *sigh*
Franki: thanks for stopping by – y’all come back now, ya hear!?!
BOSSY: I know, right?
Kentucky Girl: it was ridiculously fun!
Poppy: I think he spent like 24 hours straight editing pictures – so you should get plenty. Eventually.
Sybil Law: there’s always next year!
turnbaby: that’s what my mom always says.
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LOL
Yup
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Hey my only thought was, “She promises Boobs and she delivers!” Well, maybe it was just the tip of the iceberg, but still…
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Oh dear God, you’re right!!
:blush: :doh:
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I don’t get abrasive and tries to hard from you.
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Personally, I’d like this person to tell me that I, “try to hard to be abrasive” he/she would be referring to the Black and Decker electric sander in my hand.
(Sorry, Britt, couldn’t resist, PMS is a bitch)
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Yeah, usually people prefer the word “caustic”.
Abrasive didn’t bug me near as much as “tries too hard”, like I’m a pathetic fucking puppy begging for their attention.
Um, no. I was trying to be nice because it’s the NICE thing to do.
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I saw your adorable and funny video over at Avi’s and I think I talked to you on Mr. Fab’s radio show a couple of weeks ago…you seem really nice and I wouldn’t think those things of you.
I’m sorry someone said that crap to you but usually when someone flings shit, they are just projecting their own insecurities.
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The person who said you are “abbrasive and try too hard” CLEARLY doesn’t understand one snippet of what you are about… LOL
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Karen Rani: unless you’re completely free of insecurities, like ME!!! LOL :angel:
DutchBitch: to be fair, there are a lot of snippets to wade through. :heartbeat:
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Admit it… you look at that photo of the two of us and have to seriously debate which of us is hotter… don’t you?
:lmao:
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Are you kidding me? There is no question.
Even in that gingham….
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