So They said I wasn’t crazy.
My daughter’s verbal skills seem to be falling in the 12-18 month range, rather than the 18-24 month range that she should be leap frogging through by now.
They also said that there doesn’t seem to be anything inherently “wrong” with her. We’re not exactly sure yet why she’s behind, but we’ve got some tools to help her catch up. She’s going to have a more detailed evaluation again on Tuesday so that they can develop a specific “Family Action Plan”.
Did I say yet that I wasn’t crazy?
Whewwwwww. Huge. Sigh. Of. Relief.
She’s OK. I’m OK. She’s going to be fine. And I apparently am not so completely off my rocker as a mother that I’m likely to do permanent damage any time in the immediate future.
And yes, I know that all of this sounds dangerously selfish. This is SO not supposed to be about me. But it is, in some way. In some way it seems that everything my kids do or don’t do is about me - a reflection of me. A determination of whether or not I have failed them as a mother.
I just want to feel like I’m doing it right for them. I want to feel like I can trust myself with their future and the decisions that can affect them for the rest of their lives. I need to feel like I’m properly equipped.
And today? I’m not crazy. And she’s going to be fine.
So… we’ve got that going for us.
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Posted in Kids and Parenting - Real Mommy Blogging Tagged: emma, parenting, speech delay
I’m glad to hear that. You are clearly a great mom. And so hot, too!
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Glad to know everything is under control. I guess I would say that remember those ‘benchmarks’ are average guidelines… some variance is to be expected.
I personally know of a child who could barely do more than grunt until he was 4… turns out it was because his sisters doted on him so much that he never had to speak for anything.
With a caring and watchful mother like you, she’s sure to blossom soon enough.
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Hey Britt - I read your first post from work and wasn’t able to reply… I’ve been thinking about you though, and I’m glad you’re not crazy. Although I think you are, just a tad, just not about this! :)
Hang in there, girl. Things will work themselves out.
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Yeah… um… you’re definitely still crazy! (A little anyway) But that’s part of what makes you the wonderful Miss Britt. I’m glad to hear things are all right though!:)
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P.S. I can’t believe you totally missed my birthday:(…
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:grin: That’s great!!!! Of course, you are crazy, but I think that ultimately it will be to your childrens’ advantage.
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Good. I’m glad.
And see, you’re not THAT crazy.
A little unbalanced, but not crazy.
*grin*
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Well. There are lots of ways to be crazy. But you know that.
The whole speech thing is a bear, isn’t it? I know kids who were practically mute for a long time, and then…. ZOOM. Chatterbox city, totally on par with everyone else.
My daughter has a speed impediment… a lateral lisp… and sometimes I just PANIC over it.
Maybe you ARE crazy. But you’re only exactly AS crazy as the rest of us.
Or. Maybe it’s just me. Heh.
Rock on, sister.
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Miss Britt,
My old neighbor son had something much like your daughter. He couldn’t even say mama after he turned two. I just emailed her to give me any information she had. I know what he had was called something and I can’t remember. She takes him twice a week to speak classes, or she did (they moved back in October). Once she emails me, I will email you any info she has. I do know that by the time they moved her son was speaking much much better than he was. So whatever she was doing it was working. They told her at one point he may never speak or at least speak like the rest of us. You may have already talked about this and somehow someway I missed it, but have you tried teaching your daughter some sign language? I only say that because they teach that at my daughter’s daycare and she knew how to sign WAY before she knew how to say the words. I had no idea what she was trying to tell me (because I don’t know sign language), but boy she sure knew what she was saying!
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I told you my story yesterday. I’m still trying to figure out why you think it’s a bad thing to worry about how your kids are developing. As opposed to not giving a damn, that is. Let me work on it a bit, if that’s OK with you. How’s everything else going?
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avitable: Do you think the hotness helps? At least they’ve got good genes. ;-)
Jester: caring and watchful… and sometimes sooo impatient!
Tracy: I should get a shirt - “Only a tad crazy” LOL
Paco: I am SOOOOOOO sorry. I suck. :-(
AmyD: the crazy factor does have it’s advantages when it comes to discipline ;-)
J.: so the general consesus here then is that I’m nuts? LOL
Rich | Championable: anything that isn’t just exactly what you’d expected, always is a reason for parental panic it seems :-)
Janelle: we are working on sign language - but, yeah, ME not knowing it is slowing us down a bit!
The CEO:
Why I think it’s a bad thing to worry…
…because whenever you worry out loud as a mom (WOL), it seems you have a million people telling you to “relax” and “don’t worry” and stuff. Well meaning, of course. And when I decided to actually DO something about it, I had a lot of “oh my gosh she is FINE, you’re over reacting” type of comments.
Y’know - just more fodder for the typical mother second guessing. ;-)
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That’s what makes you a good mother.
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The hotness definitely helps. Soothes my nerves, at least!
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Sheesh, I leave for a few days and all this! Glad you have been re-assured.
Of course you are crazy and I agree with Amy, your kids will be far better off for it.
This is why we heart you!
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Yeah, I have to swing with Wicked here. she said it just right.
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I’m still going to think of you as crazy, ok?
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