I was sitting here thinking that I wouldn’t have anything to blog about today, and convincing myself that that would not be such a horrible thing. You all would survive, and I probably would too with minor ticks and convulsions.
And then I came upon a shit ton of posts about “feminists” and “feminism” and how far we’ve come - or haven’t, depending on your take on things.
And it got me thinking, in a sort of half assed intellectual kind of way.
Am I a feminist?
Well, in general, I’m not a fan of labels like that. I mean, I don’t mind being called a Democrat - but it pisses me right the fuck off when people take the next step to call me a “liberal” or a “bleeding heart”. In much the same way, I consider myself a strong, opinionated, capable woman - but I don’t know that “feminist” is really the right fit.
I’m just not that frickin’ extreme.
Now, if I couldn’t vote or hold office or own property and shit like that - then, um, yeah, this would be a completely different discussion. But I can do all of those things and more. Feminism these days has become about much more than legal rights. We’re starting to get down right nit picky at times!
The men I work with would probably say I’m a feminist. In fact, one of them does on an almost daily basis. But he’s kind of an idiot. And I think by feminist they mean “woman who believes that the size of her brain is not directly related to her lack of a penis”.
I am VERY much a girl. I love manicures and pedicures and one hour massages. I “put my face on” every morning and I curl my eyelashes with that medieval torture device looking contraption. I like having doors opened for me, and I don’t believe that a man should ever - EVER - put his hands on a woman. Period.
I also think that if my husband gets home from work before I do, that he damn well better have dinner on the table when I get home (well, OK, at least started). I do not consider my husband’s quality time with the kids to be tantamount to “babysitting” - and if I ever heard him say that I would swiftly remove his testicles to even things out.
I am a linear thinker - and my logic and reasoning skills are better than most men I know. But I am surrounded by mostly stupid people in general, so that may just be a coincidence.
I believe that there are differences between men and women - generally speaking.
If I were to ever hire a personal assistant, it would most likely be a woman, because it’s the closest I’m ever going to come to having my own wife (sans the sex of course - which, well, maybe that’s redundant…). However, if there is something stinky, or heavy, or “fixing like” to be done - I have my husband do it.
Now, if I were living on my own - or home by myself, or stranded, or whatever - I would certainly not sit down on the ground and cry my little mascara’ed eyes out until some big strong man came along to rescue me. I am more than capable of figuring out how to do shit - even if it is stinky or heavy or “fixing like” - all by myself. I just choose not to if I don’t have to. And I am not above using my Girl Powers to get shit done for me.
When men say “you throw like a girl” I laugh and say “no shit?”
I would NEVER tell my son to “quit crying like a girl”, because he has a mother and a sister and the idea that being “like a girl” is a fucking INSULT is.. well… insulting.
Hmm… OK, I’m rambling. What exactly was my point?
I guess I just wish there was another word for women like me.
Women between “If you pay my half of the tab or open that door for me I will take it as a personal afront to my worth as a human being”…and… “I would love to fluff your pillows and no I don’t have an opinion, whatever you think dear, and oh me oh my this is a tough one could you help me out with this please?”
Women who understand that there is a time and a place to use your powers for good - like scoring a free drink, or having all of your office furniture moved while you go to lunch. Hell, I embrace the differences between men and women because it’s those differences that give us so much damn power! (and anyone threatening to take away my power better watch their own ass…)
What IS the word for someone like me?
(answers from Avi or Mr. Fab will not be accepted)
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Posted in Serious Discussions - Politics, Religion, Society Tagged: feminism
I’m not sure what the word be, but I’d definitely fall into the same category as you!
I can’t STAND women who get pissed off when someone holds a door open for them. Lighten the fuck UP, ladies!!
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Ok well I’m in that catagory also.
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do you think the term “One hell of a woman” may qualify?
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Jose, I’d certainly like to think so! :-)
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Dawn: No kidding! Women like that are the reason chivalry is dying!
Fog: glad to know I’m not the only one.
Jose: Actually, that stupid “anonymous” post was me trying to respond to you. thank you ;-)
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frick
now my commenter thing stopped working right
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When you figure out that word, please let me know.
Although my mother (former bra burner) might argue with me. She cried once and said that she couldn’t believe that she was raising a woman of the 1950s. In my defense, I never vacuum, so I made a big deal of it when she was in town. I put on my pearls. I think I have scarred Mom for life.
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I believe the correct term you are searching for is woman. We’re splendid creatures aren’t we? :mrgreen:
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Yo, the word is “feminist”! You’re a feminist. Just because men who can’t deal with women having spines and lives of their own have made it into a swear-word doesn’t mean it should be. You don’t have to be a castration advocate, or androgynous, or categorically opposed to heterosexual lovin’ to be a feminist. I am none of those, and I’m a fucking feminist. (Only not so much with the fucking lately, but never mind that…)
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How about “Evolved” because sometimes you have to go to both extremes (ie. 1950’s housewife –> Bra Burner) to finally find the right voice. I’d like to think that we’re more “Evolved” and empowered now to make whatever choices are right for us and to teach our daughters to do the same.
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My first thought is “sexy fucker”.
But I think the term is just “woman”. Every woman who’s like you should be a normal women. Then you have the feminists who think that women should have penises, and you have the loser women who think that the 1950s is still in full force.
But oh yeah, I forgot that my opinion doesn’t count.
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Now THAT hurts LOL:twisted:
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I should blog about this but people would never fucking believe me.
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This was an awesome post! I am the first female in my ENTIRE extended family not to go straight from Father’s house to Husband’s house, and I am officially the black sheep of the family because of the fact that I left home at 18 and have been living alone and self-supporting since then. I get crap from just about everyone in my family for not being “a proper lady,” for going against “Christian values”, and being “unnatural.” (Don’t ask me what that last one is supposed to mean; damned if I know) The word “feminist” gets tossed around too, but I’ve lost track of what that word is supposed to mean nowadays so I don’t use it :roll:
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Mist: hey, who doesn’t love good jewelry?
Kentucky Girl: I think so, yes.
saurabh: well it’s good to know that hetero lovin’ is still ok ;-) Although, I have to give credit to most of the men in my life - they seem to appreciate the kind of woman I am.
AmyD: what’s the noun of Evolved? I wanna be that.
avitable: ooh wait, I take it back! I take it back! Your opinion definitely counts - and is now matted and framed and hanging by my desk. :oops:
Mr. Fabulous: well I figured you’d call me a lemure.
Miss Ann Thrope: try me, I would.
GirlDislocated: see and I’m the opposite - people assume because I married and had kids young and look all “white bread” in the pews, that I would never tell my husband to shut the fuck up and pick up his damn underwear.
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That’s what you get for your crazy assumption that I’m a sexist pig. I’m just a pig. Or gorilla.
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I would NEVER assume you were a sexist pig! I believe you hate all people equally.
No, really though, I was just fuckin’ with you guys.
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I’ve been reading all the feminism posts also and want to write something but now I don’t have to. You did it for me and better. I don’t care for the label “feminism”. I prefer “p**sy power” or “power of the p**sy”.
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Slackermommy: That. Is. Awesome!
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